10 Kingdom Principles to a Successful Marriage
Posted on February 26, 2014 by Donna Ghanney, One of Thousands of Business Coaches on Noomii.
Marriage is a holy union between a man and a woman that can be a wonderful fulfillment in life.
There are 10 Kingdom Principles that both parties in the marriage can practice in order to have a successful long life together with God as a part of the center.
1. Spend Quality Time Together
In a busy world, the days of most of our lives can easily pass away without taking time to communicate with our spouses. It does not necessarily mean that it is intentional, but it can become a repetition without notice that requires much attention. It is important for married couples to a lot time everyday to spend quality time together.
2. Listen and Communicate Empathetically
Listening to each other can be a unique asset to your marriage. The cares of our lives often prevent married couples from listening to each other with concern and empathy. This also results in unsuccessful communication. When we listen caring, we most often will respond sympathetically. Our communication also will be attuned to our spouse’s needs and not our own individual needs. Each party in the marriage must set aside there own selfish needs in order to be responsive to each other needs sympathetically.
3. Be Thankful and Appreciative Mutually
Taking time to say a simple “thank you” for the large and small things is often taken for granted. Married couples often become complacent thinking that each other are required to fulfill task without any affection or appreciation. A simple thing like taking the trash out could be rewarded. Picking up dinner from a restaurant to bring home can be a delightful reason for appreciation. When we express appreciation to each other there is a feeling of warmth inside because we know each other cares.
4. Allow Compassion and Understanding To Rule
It is always nice to have the person that you see as the most intimate to be compassionate and understanding to each others most confidential and essential need. When things are painful it will always be appreciative to have an accepting and considerate shoulder to lean on. You will become each others most soul tide and loving friend. Going beyond the call of duty can increase the chances of pleasing each other.
5. Be Responsive to Each Others Request and Needs
Pay close attention to each others needs. It will show that each other is important in your marriage. Answer the phone when you are able to. If you are not able answer a call, respond back at the next most opportune moment. Prevent having delays to request in your relationship. If there is a task to be performed and circumstances will delay it, provide feed back to each other.
6. Compromise
Be pliable and flexible with each other. Both parties may need to change their ideas or opinions. What may appear to be right may be found to be wrong in the future. Take time to sit and plan together with an open mind. Remember in all things you are to love each other.
7. Voice Concerns Respectfully
Arguments may arise in any relationship. The point is that in marriage each party must practice principles such as not allowing anger to turn into sin. Some time it is best to walk away for a moment to think things out carefully before responding. Before leaving, let the other party know respectfully that you would like to discuss it at another time. Try to stay away from yelling and criticism. Avoid lying, threats, and stonewalling each other. Stay focused on the important things about your marriage by recalling the positive aspects.
8. Take Time for Memorable Moments To Share
Planned events and sharing time together alone can enhance your memorable moments and keep your marriage time special. These benchmarks of your lives together can keep your marriage exciting and refreshed. Making these times together regularly can also add flavor to your union on a regular basis.
9. Share Projects That are Meaningful
Get involved in community events together that are meaningful. For instance if you both are passionate about the environment join a group that performs activities you take interest in together.
10. Repent To Each Other and With God
Above all it is important to be repentant to each other and before God. Saying I am sorry and meaning it is good for the soul. Remember always, that in order to sustain a successful marriage, both parties must be active, participate, and desire a long term relationship as friends and family.
