How Can I Live a Peaceful Life ?

Posted on February 01, 2014 by Jennifer Harvey Sallin, One of Thousands of Entrepreneurship Coaches on Noomii.

How Can I Live a Peaceful Life ?

How many years do searchers of peace spend looking, but never finding it? And how many conclude that, just maybe, it’s not possible at all, resigning themselves to isolated moments of peace within a more general state of chaos and inner inquietude? Peace is possible, but seems impossible until you find it. We in some way expect to find it as an external “thing,” some physical object found in our outer environment, or as a lifestyle that provides an inner security. But once found, we are often surprised to learn that peace is different than we thought it would be. It is not external. It arises as if spontaneously from a more internal process – a self-catalyzing end-process that springs from an inner “organized” chaos. Thinking about collectively autocatalytic systems helps understand why this is the case, and how we can encourage the seemingly spontaneous arousal of peace in our lives.

Last year, I wrote an article about how many people give up on their goals and creativity during the “struggle” phase. They can’t seem to reach their goal, find their answer, or have the creative insight they are looking for, and they lose patience and resign. Just as things are coming together on the inside, they give up, because they don’t see the outer manifestation of the inner process.

The same can be said in our search for peace.

Many people give up on finding peace just as it’s starting to grow because they can’t see the inner process manifesting itself in the outer world, and conclude “it’s not working.” To help us put things into perspective, it can be immensely helpful to understand the inner mechanism for the outer manifestation of peace.

In short, given enough of a push-start, peace becomes an autocatalytic system.

But what does this mean?

In chemistry, we can see that certain chemicals play dual roles: they are ingredients in a reaction and catalysts for another reaction. Proteins and RNA are two examples. More familiar are the enzymes that help catalyze our daily food digestion. The very interesting point with catalytic molecules is that they speed up the very chemical processes which create them, leading to the creation of even more catalytic molecules, which are then in turn available to catalyze more reactions, and then more, and then more. And in terms of process, this translates as speed: catalyzed reactions speed up creation. Collective autocatalytic systems are systems of interactions which are self-regenerated through the action of the very elements they generate. A peaceful life is the result of letting peace become a collective autocatalytic system for you.

Peace acts as a catalyst for peace.

Let’s do a thought experiment: Let’s imagine that little moments of peace, calm, inner satisfaction, gratitude, kindness, self-care, and so on are each “peace molecules.” In an autocatalytic peace system, these “peace molecules” aid in and speed up the process of the self-creation of more “peace molecules.” These additional molecules aid in and speed up the process even more, resulting in an ever-expanding network of peaceful molecules. The more peace molecules, the quicker the expansion.

Imagine you have 100 interactions per day, both interactions with others and internal interactions within yourself. If you are able to be peaceful in 10 of those 100 interactions, you will create “molecules” of peace, new units of peace that can then go on to catalyze the creation process of more units of peace for future interactions. After a time you’ll have, let’s say, 25 peaceful interactions out of your 100 interactions, all 25 of which now create even more “peace molecules,” which as we’ve established, is the same as saying “peace-catalyzing molecules.” You have even more catalysis happening in the overall system, which is going to speed up peace reactions in the overall system. Your system is becoming progressively more “fit” for peace.

And then, a crucial point: there is a threshold for catalyzed reactions in systems. As the ratio of interactions goes up, along with resulting number of catalyzed reactions, the number of catalyzed reactions eventually equals the total number of interactions, and a major phase transition takes place. A giant catalyzed reaction network forms, emerges as a whole within the system, almost as a new system super-unit. It is made up of the components in the system, yet in some strange way remains its own entity. It becomes a living thing which is fed by, but not linearly created by, the system’s energy source. It is a collectively autocatalytic system which has emerged into life out of your inner “organized” chaos.

—Deep breath, science lesson over.—

Peace is a living thing, an alive process, which, given enough “interactions” to catalyze, self-creates and self-generates. It is a process which comes into existence in the life of the person who gives it enough space to self-catalyze and to create its own presence as a living system within the person.

This is the paradox of peace. We go searching for it, and for how many years! But in the end, peace is not something we can “have” or possess. It is, rather, almost something that possesses us, or perhaps in less dramatic language, uses our energy to stay alive.

And it’s a welcome trade-off! Peace, once alive in us, is not only not hard to maintain, but almost impossible to destroy. And it is a beautiful process to witness. What we trade for it – a sense of “ego,” the desire to control, a compulsive need to prove ourselves – is an unthinkable comparison to the presence of peace. And this is why it feels so different than we thought it would. When we were running around madly searching for our “peaceful life,” in our “if I’m going to have it, I’m going to have to work to keep it” mentality, we thought peace would come through non-stop effort, through an “ego” control, and through proving our “ability” to be peaceful, as though we were the ones having to keep it alive.

No, peace lives itself. And we get to experience its beauty.

We get to become the observers of peace in us. Of course, we can imagine that our own experience of peace catalyzes the experiences of peace in those around us. The interconnected web of interactions and catalyzed reactions doesn’t stop at the edge of our skin!

Have you been searching for peace?

Encourage its emergence in your life. You’ll have to “work” to get to the threshold ratio to allow its self-catalyzed construction: you can do this by choosing peaceful reactions, both within yourself and with others. When you are tempted to self-criticize, practice kindness. When you are tempted to judge others, practice humility. When you are feeling unsatisfied, practice gratitude. Each “interaction” you have is an opportunity to let peace catalyze itself toward its threshold in your life. Each moment brings you closer to its emergence in you, and when it emerges, you will know without a doubt.

The presence of peace is unmistakable!

Important Note: I want to point out that this self-catalytic process has also been described for less beautiful creations and “entities” that live in us, almost as if independent of our will: evil, greed, addiction, depression, paralyzing fear and anxiety, and so on. All these more negative energies fit the same process I’ve described here. Of course, I’ve applied the process in the positive terms of peace, and it us equally true for love, kindness, and other saintly attributes. But many of us have lived the reality of the process in its more negative manifestations. If this is currently the case for you, you can still rejoice: now you are becoming aware of how the process works, you can depersonalize having been “stuck in” or “taken control of by” a negative collective autocatalytic process in your life, and so you can start turning the tide to make the process work for your good!