Acceptance and Getting Rid of Anger
Posted on January 02, 2014 by John Pesciallo, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
An outline for healthy anger management though healthy acceptance.
Anger! #$*!#$* Do you want less anger in your life? Do you wish you hadn’t said all those mean things?
By John Pesciallo, BSW, CWPC
January 1, 2014
Introduction
Change can be very involved and very difficult. Or, it can be made simple and taken just one step at a time according to your own preferred pace. To get rid of anger and be accepting of your situation in a healthy positive way, can be a challenge. Taking on this challenge means changing your perspective, having realistic expectations, a willingness to learn, developing healthy acceptance. From there you work at getting prepared to take action, having a plan on how to implement your actions, and then learning from your outcomes. And it is equally important to plan for success and not sabotage it.
An outline for healthy anger management:
Step-1. Getting rid of pain or anger, reducing one’s pain and anger, is doable.
It’s not easy, but change is doable; reducing your pain and anger can be done. One of the first things to do is to change the way you look at anger.
Step-2. The next thing to do is be realistic with what you expect to happen.
If you expect too little or too much you may not get what you want at all! Expect to work at reducing your anger; and work at it hard enough to feel it. But don’t work at it too hard, or expect too much, such that you get discouraged.
Step-3. Ridding yourself of pain and anger is a process too.
What that means is that it takes a willingness to learn something new; it takes time for the process to begin working and continue to work; and it takes effort to learn something new and apply that learning to doing things differently.
Step-4. The Process of Healthy Acceptance
Moving away from pain and anger is a process. And there are certain elements of this process that help insure positive, healthy, and productive outcomes: Acknowledgement of reality, healthy Acceptance, Adjusting your life, and Learning from this process.
Step-5. Being self-aware and ready to “act” instead of “react”
Be self-aware of when you are starting to feel pain. Let that awareness be your trigger to “intentionally act.” Having a written plan is central to being aware and ready to act.
Step-6. A new reality of hope; your “new life” is here, don’t sabotage it!
As we begin to really understanding our pain & anger issues and situation, facing the reality of our situation, working through it and accepting it for what it is, we start realizing that a brighter future is possible. A “New Life” is possible! We actually can have a better life. Then BANG! We start to sabotage their success. Beware of this.
Disclaimer Notice:
This model for change is not a substitute for professional advice, formal counseling or therapy. You must decide what is best for you. This article is for educational purposes only. Thank you. jp
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