Stop Struggling
Posted on December 19, 2013 by Jenny Ngo, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
An article about the uphill battle and how to stop struggling when faith is wearing thin.
If you have or ever had larger than life ambitions and you’re the pro-active, go-getter type, perhaps you could be a little impatient….. or a lot….perhaps you’re the type that wanted everything done by yesterday; perhaps you like to hit the ground running, if so then maybe you’d understand a little about how difficult it is to be patient and wait for Law of Attraction to bring to you your return on investments. Do you relate?
Perhaps you’ve done everything you could to set things into motion and you’re eager and ready for the results to show up. Time is passing yet you find yourself waiting, and waiting, and waiting some more. Days, weeks, months, maybe even years go by. Your patience is wearing thin. You’ve been at this for a while. You’re starting to feel discouraged. You’re starting to wonder if this is really meant to be, if you’re truly on the right path. Is it ever going to happen for you? Something has to give. Your commitment to your ambitions are becoming unclear. You start to wonder if you really truly want what you’re going after. Is it really worth all your efforts? Is it really worth all your frustration and energy? You grow anxious, and tired and your interest and commitment wane. You start considering a “plan B” life. Another life to fall back on because it’s a familiar path, a proven formula, something you know how to work to get results if you needed for survival.
When you find yourself in this place I invite you to stop and take a moment. Pause. Close your eyes, breathe, and connect to your heart. Invite yourself to stop struggling. Because you know darn well you’ve wanted this so bad that it consumes you and you’ve been struggling in your mind, your heart, your body. The kettle won’t boil any faster if you watch it and count every mico- second.
TO GAIN CLARITY:
Before you go and make any radical changes about your circumstances and quit on your dream forever. I ask you to close your eyes, and weigh out “Plan A” and “Plan B”. Imagine yourself choosing Plan A… and then Plan B. How does each choice feel? How does each resonate in your body, mind, and heart? Really get centered and connect to how it feels. Which one feels more authentic? Which one feels better? Which one will you regret forever if you don’t pursue it? Which one feels like settling? Which one do you feel more inclined to take? I encourage you to follow the guidance in your heart because your heart will never lead you astray. Many will find that when they neglect their heart, it haunts them. You don’t want to get to the end of your life and regret something you wish you would have done. Sometimes the pain of not doing something is far greater than the pain of doing it. So ask yourself what it is that you really want. What’s important to you? Why do you want that?
Once you have figured it out, ask yourself if you are interested or if you are committed. Interested meaning you’ll do what’s convenient to get it done. Committed meaning you’ll do whatever it takes. If you’re not committed, then perhaps choosing a lesser option at the moment would be appropriate until you’re fully ready to commit. Because your commitment to your path is what will decide your success. Commitment will breed persistence. Sometimes it takes many tries and some failures until eventually those failures become successes. Success and failure go hand in hand. So, if you are committed, great. It’s time to re-commit. And then relax. Just breathe.
Certainly there are exceptions where you need to make temporary revisions to accommodate the current circumstances of your life and simply make ends meet. That’s fine. But just remember your commitment and make conscious effort to work on it regularly and give it your full attention when the time is right. Don’t abandon your dream. It’ll create a black hole in your heart.
TO STOP THE RESISTANCE:
Now, regarding the feelings of struggling, what you resist persists. When you are in this space you are actually exacerbating your circumstances and your feelings of lack and struggle. What you focus on expands. So, if you can, stop focusing on what you don’t yet have and what hasn’t yet arrived. Instead pause and look around and observe your surroundings. Where are you? Ask yourself, what you have to learn from this place in time? What have you learned so far? What do you appreciate about the current moment? Could it be this moment in time is preparing your for something bigger? And if you can, try to focus on what it is that you do want. How will it feel when you finally have what you’re desiring? Focus on that as long as you can. But, if that is too difficult, simply give yourself permission to clear your mind and think of nothing. Empty out all the feelings of frustration, and expectation. Just for this moment, allow yourself to quiet your mind, feel nothing, and be at peace. Breathe. Stop struggling, just for this moment. All that you’re working on will still be there when you’re ready to return to it. Savor this moment… as long as you can.
Practice this everyday. If you believe in your mind and heart that you deserve what you desire and what you desire deserves you, and you’re committed and persistent, then in ripe time, it shall come. But for now, relax and stop struggling. Your mind, heart, and body will thank you for it.
