The 6 Qualities Men Want In A Woman

Posted on December 06, 2013 by Matthew Hoelscher, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.

Click here to read last week’s post on what women want in a man.

I know what you are all thinking, “Six? There is only one!” You are close, it ranks as #2. But do you know the #1 quality is?

I will give you a hint, you spend enormous amounts of time, money, and attention to the number one quality.

Its the other four that are really surprising! Only one quality is in common with the man’s list from last week. Two others may seem quite offensive to women with a career focus. I just want to point out when it comes to attraction, it requires polarity, opposites. The further apart, the more space for attraction.

When a man is reading your profile or getting to know you, here are the qualities he is looking for in you.

1. Beauty

2. Sexual openness

3. Trust of their (man’s) direction

4. Support for their (man’s) vision

5. Intelligence

6. Healthy radiance

Now how do you work these into your online profile and dating conversation?

1. Beauty

The first thing a man does online is look through your photos to find an attraction to your beauty. If the photos are blurry, with sunglasses or taken with a cell phone in a mirror, it is not creating an attraction in him. Find a friend with a good camera and go out for a photoshoot. Show off your body, your smile, your hair and your eyes. Be confident and fabulous! Show him how much you love yourself and your body. That way there are no surprises when you show up in person. I won’t go into hair, makeup and clothes. A man wants his women to look her best when going out on the town.

2. Sexual openness

Last week when I suggested that men be good at social touch to show his passion. The way you respond to the touch shows your sexual openness. Will you touch him back? Will you smile? Or will your pull away, put his hand down, and give him an evil look?

For the most part, you cannot openly discuss sex early on in a relationship. So all that communication becomes non-verbal. If you touch a man first or often, you will put him at ease and convey sexual openness in a polite way.

3. Trust of their (man’s) direction

When a man shares his direction and purpose, would you support it? Do you trust what he is doing and would you support him in accomplishing it? If you have found yourself nagging a man, it is because you no longer trust his commitment to his direction. That breaks this critical attraction factor.

4. Support for their (man’s) vision

An attractive man knows where his going and can articulate it. Would you want to go along on that ride? Do you see yourself in that picture?

5. Intelligence

This is the one quality on both lists. What is your education, what do you read, what is your opinion on things that matter to you?

6. Healthy radiance

This cuts back to the basics of reproduction. A healthy partner is always more attractive. How do you exercise, eat, and engage in life. Are you always complaining or are you content and happy?

This top 6 list came from David Deida’s book, “Intimate Communion”. This book is about relationships instead of individuals. I have learned a lot about my marriage and how I show in world as a man thanks to his inspired writing.

If you are looking for a new relationship, click here to open my calendar to schedule a free 30 minute phone call to review these 6 qualities and how they apply to you. We can find out what is working, what can be improved, and your biggest block to being more attractive to the opposite sex!