The 6 Qualities Women Want In A Man

Posted on December 06, 2013 by Matthew Hoelscher, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.

I have started coaching several people about relationships and finding the next person in their life. One of the hardest tasks is creating an online dating profile to attract response from others. The common thread of the questions are:

1. What do women want?

2. What do men want?

One of my favorite authors on the subject is David Deida. His book, “Way Of The Superior Man” is in my top 10 favorites of all time and I recommend it often. A friend turned me on to another of his books, “Intimate Communion”. This book is about relationships instead of individuals. I have learned a lot about my marriage and how I show in world as a man thanks to his inspired writing.

When a woman is reading your profile or getting to know you, here are the qualities she is looking for in you.

1. Presence

2. Intelligence

3. Strength

4. Passion

5. Direction

6. Humor

Now how do you work these into your online profile and dating conversation?

1. Presence

This is the long walks on the beach, candlelit conversations, gazing into each others eyes. If a women goes out with you, how will she know you will be complete present and with her? She does not want to compete with your smartphone for attention.

2. Intelligence

College degrees and education is important, but what books have your read? What was the last movie or play you attended. What did you think about it? What was your opinion about that book?

3. Strength

Most women are not looking for big muscles, but how do you take care of yourself? Do you go to the gym or play a sport. How do you eat?

4. Passion

Easy guys, this is where it gets complicated. Online, you need to show photos where you are laughing and having fun. Pictures that included you with more than one women show that you are “approved” by other women and safe to be with.

In person women want to feel your emotions. Can you be open and share what you are feeling? Or are you closed off and guarded? This is also anxiety about whether or not your date likes you can kill you. She can feel your anxiety, but has no idea where it is coming from? If you love yourself, just as your are and do not worry about her approval you will get it automatically. Men, you need to lead here, if you are happy, they will be happy. If you are nervous, they will be nervous.

Women will feel your passion in how you touch them. They feel it in your hug, how you touch the side of her arm, and her back. If you can make her feel comfortable with socially acceptable touch, you will create a powerful attraction inside of her.

5. Direction

Where are you going with your life? Men with a successful career have a clear direction. What kind of difference do you or would you like to make in the world. This is where men think women only care about money. Money is just one measure of how clear you are in your direction. The starving artist also has a girlfriend because he has a clear direction in what message he wants to convey with his art.

6. Humor

If you are out on a perfect date, with a wonderful women and the waiter spills a drink on you, are you going to get angry? Feel like the night is ruined? Or laugh about it? Humor is the contrast to passion and direction. Stop and laugh at the irony of life.

If you are looking for a new relationship, click here to open my calendar to schedule a free 30 minute phone call to review these 6 qualities and how they apply to you. We can find out what is working, what can be improved and your biggest block to being more attractive to the opposite sex!