How to Flirt With a Guy You Like & Receive the Response You Want.
Posted on December 04, 2013 by Cyndi Harris, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
6 steps to get a guy, you like, to notice you without being overly aggressive or feeling uncomfortable.
Learning how to get a guy, you like, to notice you can seem like an uncomfortable challenge at times.
But guess what ladies, the guy you like may be interested in meeting you too, but is unsure how he can make it happen. The risk of rejection is an unpleasant thought so, sometimes, even men need a little help.
And with our society’s infatuation with gadgets which require little human contact. Face to face interaction and conversation are running the risk of becoming extinct. Striking up a conversation and actually meeting someone has become risky business and a little scary.
So, to make meeting that cute guy in line ahead of you at Starbucks; the grocery store; or wherever you may notice him a little easier. Here are some simple steps to follow and meet that special guy.
Just remember, it is meant to be a fun experience. So, be playful, enjoy yourself, and have a good time.
First Step… Relax and smile. Do this by taking a deep breath and remembering something that makes you happy. It will literally change the “feel” of the energy around you. Plus, it helps you feel and look more confident. This confidence will help you feel more open to meeting new people. People will feel good about you because, you seem at ease and friendly.
So, go with the flow, you never know who you may meet and develop a new business contact, friendship, or relationship.
Step 2… Make Eye Contact. This simple courtesy can make a huge difference in the quality of conversation you have with someone. It lets the person you are talking to know you are interested in what they are saying. This can be very flattering and makes you memorable.
Step 3… Once you have said the initial “Hello”, ask him his name. Then, reach out and shake his hand as you introduce yourself. It is a friendly gesture that is not utilized enough.
Shaking someone’s hand can be a very natural way to help someone relax in your presence. Touching someone can be a very powerful “icebreaker”. Shaking hands is a noninvasive way of bringing physical contact into your conversation without making him or you feel threatened.
Step 4… Learn How to Make Small Talk. This can be a big challenge for most people. They are not sure what to say after the initial name, rank, and “serial number” conversation starters. i.e. What do you do? How do you like… (the event) To make this easier, give step #5 your full attention.
Some safe topics: The weather, offer a compliment and wait for a response, ask about the area (restaurants, stores, etc.) and then why they like the places they are suggesting.
Step 5… Listen Carefully to the Response to Your Question(s). This little tip can help to keep the conversation going. Plus, It makes the person doing the talking feel important. Be sure to keep the questions simple and on neutral subjects. (i.e. favorite hobbies, family, any place interesting they may have traveled. etc.)
Step 6… Use Their Name in the Conversation. A surprisingly simple, but often, neglected tip. Using someone’s name shows them that they have made a good impression on you. And by utilizing this basic tip, you become even more likable and unforgettable as well.
So, there it is. A few short and sweet tips to move you safely along the path of flirtation. Flirting really is a simple way to get someone’s attention by exhibiting confidence and basic human courtesy plus, get to know someone you may have initially been nervous to meet.
When done correctly, flirting can get a conversation going. Then, allow you to happily and successfully part company having made a new friend or at least having made a potentially boring situation more enjoyable.
So, relax and have fun, you have just stepped into the wonderful world of successful flirting.
Wishing you much love and unlimited joy,
Cyndi Harris, Lifestyle & Relationship Solution Coach
www.undeniablyirresistible.com