What causes us to act
Posted on October 14, 2013 by Frank Maycock, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
Life is about the choices we make. If we can understand our choices and the limitations we put on ourselves we can choose differently.
What causes us to act? This is not a question most people ask, but every day we make hundreds of decisions, respond to dozens of people, and fill our lives with busyness that tends to drive us to one form of action or another.
When I have asked this question to people, some say, ‘I do not know’, others will make excuses when they know that something went wrong, or they will make rational comments in hopes to come to the answer that will appease the listener.
Have you found that a good portion of the time you spend acting is simply correcting an action that was created in the past? Do you find that others are leading your decisions for you simply because you do not want to deal with the consequences of the decisions you need to make? Are you one who makes decisions solely based on advancement? Do you make decisions based on the emotions of the day that would serve you in the moment? Do you state your decisions as if they are based on other’s needs so you don’t sound self-focused?
Most of our decisions, conscious or unconscious, are driven by the simple truth that we want what we want, when we want it, the way we want it. Most, if not all, decisions are self-motivated. We may say they are driven by social causes or for the betterment of others, but when we strip away all the nuances and rational that created those decisions and actions we have made, we see that they take us to the place of ‘I want what I want, when I want it, the way I want it’.
Millions of dollars are spent finding people who will agree with us from day to day. Listen to the marketing campaigns that help drive us to see that we really want that particular product or to do that particular thing. What they are driving is the core of our feelings. It is those feelings that drive us to find the best product, the best job, or the advancement that we believe we deserve or need.
Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to sort out those feelings is such a way that we really get to the why of the issues of life and not just react based on circumstances or situations we find ourselves in? Too often we go to therapy to discover the why’s of life, which can be very helpful for some. However, is there another way? I believe there is and that is with the right coach. The coach comes along as a thought partner, one who can ask the tough questions and can strip away the what’s and how’s of life so that you can see for yourself the why’s.
You do what you do because you want to do it. Wouldn’t it be nice to have someone alongside you to ask the questions to help you see you can really do what you want and not simply react and then look back and wish you had done it differently? The power of choice is ours but we give it away to others so easily.
The why’s of life are important because they drive us to our true purpose in life, and they get to the core of our thinking and feeling. Having the right set of data and the right questions can enhance that process so you can truly make the right choices for you.
