Love Yourself

Posted on September 27, 2013 by Coach Cassandra, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.

(www.CassandraMaddox.com)
Having self-worth is one of the key essentials to the outcome or turnout of any and ALL relationship we will encounter in our lifetime.

Merriam-Dictionary defines worth as “the value of something measured by its qualities or by the esteem in which it is held.”

By applying self to that same definition it would be the value you place on your own worth and your own self esteem.

Over the course of 11 years I noticed that there is/are commonality in what having self-worth looks like and feel like vs. not having it and here is the list below…..

Not having self-worth
Allowing yourself to feel spiritual broken
Feeling selfish for putting you first
Doubting every decision you make that you know is for your good
Accepting less than the best
Allowing yourself to be walked over or abused mentally, physically, or emotionally
Saying yes when you know you should say no and want to say no
Feeling unbalanced
Depressed
Overly confused about who you are

In order to get out of these feelings one must first accept the person that is staring back at them and say hey I know you it is time we work together and not battle with each other any longer. When you accept who you are flaws and all and yes we all have flaw anyone that says they don’t is not being honest with themselves. Flaws are not only physical attributes it can be mentally or emotionally which is another topic for another day, so back to self-worth. But when you accept your flaws you open the door to a greater change.

A change in the way you view yourself and the way you view the outside world. No “human” can give you what you should feel about yourself you are the ONLY person who can give yourself the type of love you need in order to love who you are.

Do you believe our Creator placed us here to be beaten up or broken down whether by yourself or by allowing someone else to do so, No.? He wants us to see ourselves as he himself sees us. That’s with love, respect, and confidence.

Love in that we love who we are and know what we want and go straight for it. Love in that we love ourselves enough to speak up and remove people, places, or things to which that are trying to take away our self-love.

Respect the fact that we are here for a purpose, a duty, a mission and the only way we can do it and do it diligently with passion and assurance is by holding our self-worth at high standards and protecting it.

Confidence in that fact that no matter where we are now that it will get better and be better. Confidence so that we will believe in ourselves. Confidence that nothing that has come against or will come against us will not break us, but instead will make you into a GOD fearing, Jesus loving, Spiritual Being.

Once we start doing the work it will take, and yes it does take work and consistency, then you will start to see changes. It may take a minute to get to a place of balance but you will get there.

Once you get to that place this is list you shall notice and see about for yourself….

Having Self Worth
Having a healthy relationship with GOD, yourself, and others
Love who you are
Know what you want and deserve
Self-Respect
Make time for you
Not accepting anything less than what you know you deserve
Accepting Change when it’s for the best
Achieving your goals
Going after your passions
Living out your dreams
Equally loving yourself and others
Understanding and accepting your gifts, talents, and abilities

Before you give up and draw back into the wrong habits, self-doubt, self-sacrificing, or whatever your hindering habits are ask yourself which of these list do I feel in my spirit I am to live out each day? Which is going to help me to get to a happier well balanced life?

Trust me the first list may seem like it isn’t a lot of work but don’t be fooled by delusions not having self-worth is not where our Heavenly Father want us to be.

I don’t have all the answers nor do I claim to be all-knowing, but I do know from my personal experiences that for many years these are the things that were very common in both lists.

Take a few minutes and really look at each list and see how you are currently investing in your self-worth.