Listening to The Gift of Frustration
Posted on August 29, 2013 by The Coaching Cabin of Broad Ripple, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
Consider looking at Frustration as a gift that arrives to serve you a very specific purpose, and once it fulfills that purpose, it leaves you.
We often have become so overwhelmed with what others want, need, or think of us, that we lose our authentic self. If you are feeling frustrated, it’s most likely because the things you are doing and how you are being are not in alignment with who you are at your most authentic, deepest, and best level.
The frustration we feel is very real, but not in the way we often think it is. The frustration (believe it or not) is a gift, that arrives to inform us that how we are being and/or what we are doing is not in true service of us or those around us.
Instead of listening to the true message of frustration (which is that a change is needed) we often try to outwork, outsmart, or get a head of this frustration; any relief felt by these remedies are short-lived. As we continue to live outside of our authenticity, the frustration only returns again and again to remind us this is not who or how we are at our deepest and best levels.
When is the best time to address your frustration?
The most ideal time to effectively address frustration is often in that present moment when you are experiencing it.
Ask yourself these questions:
Who am I being (or not being) that is causing the arrival of this feeling?
What is it I am I doing (or not doing) that has brought this gift of frustration to me?
Honoring that this feeling of frustration is coming from within me, and that it has arrived for a reason, what are all the things it may be trying to tell me?
Trust that the answers to these question are attempting to emerge in the present moment as you ask them. To tap in to this moment, and it is always this moment, is part of your truth. The reality is that when you are living a life in alignment with your most authentic and best self, your frustration (having fulfilled its role) leaves you. Joy and happiness move in, because you are in harmony with your true self, which puts you in harmony with the rest of the world and the people within it.
I understand that in the past you may not have looked at frustration as a gift, but I invite you to do so the next time this gift arrives.
