Getting real with yourself
Posted on July 15, 2013 by Kari Penner, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
Who is that looking back at you? Do you recognize the face in the mirror? Do you recognize the body you’ve created?
Acceptance and awareness of our current life situation is the first step we must take towards transforming our lives. Everyone has a skeleton or two in their closet that has to see the light of day before true transformation can occur.
If you’re feeling anxiety or uneasiness that isn’t caused by a chemical imbalance, chances are you are not in integrity with yourself.
So what does that mean?
It means that there are truths that you are not being truthful with yourself about. It means that your actions aren’t in alignment with your true core desires.
Example – you want to save money and pay down debt, yet you spend frivolous money on things that put you over budget every month driving you into more debt.
Or, perhaps you’re like me, wanting to lose weight, but not being realistic about how many calories you eat and the quality of food that you put in your body.
Or perhaps you want to be on time for someone you love and don’t show up for him or her, or show up late.
This is all just about an inconsistency in what you really want (healthy body, no debt, to show up) and how you’re acting. This inconsistency affects your moods and can lead to anxiety and all kinds of other negative emotions that tear down your self-esteem.
So, if there’s transformation that has to take place in your life and it’s being blocked, look first at the situation for what it is and accept it 100%. Then, look at the outcome you REALLY want and compare that to the actions you’re taking. Chances are, your actions don’t equate to the desired results you want. If you don’t know what actions to take, it’s time to get a mentor or coach to help you, which is why I do mentoring and have a life coach. I wish I had a “me” helping guide me when I first got started.
When you are truthful with yourself about the reality of your life, look at the desired outcome you want to create and compare that to the action you’re taking; you get a whole new reality check on why your life is the way it is. And what’s cool is that you can make a new decision with your new awareness, right now and change.
So, are your actions in alignment with the desired outcome you really want? Are you telling yourself the truth of how your life really is right now?
xox Kari
