Deepen Self-Love & Authentic Happiness Through Compassionate Communication

Posted on May 18, 2013 by Maitri Joy , One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.

“What I want in my life is compassion, a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart”
—Marshall B. Rosenberg (excerpted from Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Compassion)

Two months ago, I witnessed a talk given by Marshall Rosenberg, which deeply affected me and confirmed the course of my life. As a practitioner of Buddhism for the past fifteen years as well as a shamanic healer, I have had some training in staying connected to the heart. Marshall, however, offers a fresh new way to connect with the heart of compassion, one that has brought much inspiration, hope and gratitude into my life. I would like to share my thoughts with you about this model as a guide not only to opening up your heart to compassion but also as a path for healing.

It seemed I was learning a new language, a way to understand how to communicate more compassionately with others. What I began to realize is that this was a gross simplification and that this process had much greater and far-reaching implications then I had previously thought. Now I understand this new language is pointing to a deeper connection with the self; a connection that is rooted in love. Fluency in this language is not in learning new words or a specific technique. Although this can be beneficial, fluency is actually in the embodiment of compassionate change that occurs simultaneously as an expression of giving and receiving compassion. The core foundation of this process is transformation.

For our culture, this is nothing short of a miracle. The implications for change in a culture where so much focus is on our judgments of each other, and the violence that follows, is quite staggering. I offer these words as inspiration for a better world, where we can effortlessly communicate our deepest feelings and needs; a place where requests are asked of us in a manner that embodies what is truly alive in our souls.

I encourage you to learn more about this process. In our culture, the heart and the soul are inevitably disconnected. Within the self and between selves, this model of compassionate communication offers us a way out; a path of healing the pain and suffering that results from this disconnection. Through this approach, we can manifest a new place where compassion thrives within ourselves, our children, our communities and the planet in which we inhabit. As Mahatma Gandhi once said “ Peace between countries must rest on the solid foundation of love between individuals.”