Separation - Embracing Life’s Transitions
Posted on May 15, 2013 by Inga Michaelsen CPCC, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
Transform a stressful, disruptive separation into a life-giving, transformative event.
Life is ever changing and impermanent. This is a hard pill to swallow in our western culture and times of transition are often experienced as “hard” or “negative”. But with some support and consciousness this experience can be transformed from a stressful, disruptive event into a life-giving, transformative event.
Millions of people are separating every year, but not many of them are doing it without feeling grief & heartbreak, confusion, anger, disorientation, fear or numbness. Thiese feelings are normal, even if the separation is ultimately positive and good for everyone. You are experiencing a death. The death of a partnership as you knew it, the death of a dream, the death of a future together, the dissolution of an intact family if children are involved. As you find your way though these challanges you also have to deal with the addionitonal issues of separating shared belongings, navigating the tricky terrain of finances, and signing legal documents.
Done consciously and with awareness, transitions offer an incredible opportunity for personal growth. This is not an easy task as it takes commitment.
Commitment to Let Go – seperating and letting go of the old life, allowing ourselves to grieve over our loss, and look closly at our fears and doubts which are influenced by the past and specualtions of the future.
Commitment to BE in the Unknown – when you are experiencing a place of groundlessness. Your old life is over and you are not yet established in your new life. It is a very uncomfortable place as you feel like you have nothing to hang on to. Indeed one may often feel lost, disorientated, alone and hopeless.
My task as your coach is to help illuminate your path on this journey of seperation. I will provide you with practical tools and a supportive space where you can courageously and honestly embrace the process of letting go. It is a space where you can surrender, where you can trust that you will finally emerge from this alien place whole and more empowered than before.
The Nuts & Bolts of seperating
Yes, through this life transition we want to gain spirtual growth, and along the way we want to make sure that we stand up for what is rightfully ours.
As women, we often find ourselve sabotaging our rights in the financial aspects of a separation. There is a tendency to cave in because we are intimitated. Often we carry this sense of guilt, a sense of “not deserving”. Knowing your rights and being able to communicate them confidently is essential in order to come to a fair settlement.
Where a lawyer and mediator can support you with your legal rigths, I will help you to find the courage and strength to stand up for yourself, to stay when things get uncomortable and not run away.
What do you want?
Imagine the dust has settled. What do you want? Lets explore the possibilities and create tangible steps to move forward into a life that you want to create for yourself.
Coaching Program – Embracing life’s in transition
I know that if you are getting legal advice, going through a divorce/seperation is often an expensive undertaken, even if you find a fast solution. However, in my experience working with a coach at the same time, chances are, that it will speed up the process, and most importanly make you feel more confident throughout.
Please, contact me if you want support in transforming this stressful, disruptive time into a journey of self-empowerment and great learning.
