Drive By Breakup Atrist
Posted on March 28, 2013 by Kate GOTCoaching, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.
When one breaks it off in a relationship and does it by text...
Are you a Drive-by Breakup Artist?
Modern day technology has allowed us to work, buy, and communicate at nearly the speed of thought it seems. Along with the advantages of “instant” gratification comes instant heartache with slight -of -hand, or touch pad in this instance. I refer to this type of heart break as ending the relationship: “Coward Style”. A lot of us have been through it. One minute there is the “I love you” and the next day, ugh…”We need to talk”. If there was a “choke” button intended for the sender, I think there would be a lot of BLUE faces out there!
Breaking it off with someone via text is a definite cop-out in avoiding confrontation. Not only does it resonate having no class but it also screams emotionally immature at best. The best road to take, of course, is to call the person you are in a relationship with and be kind but clear that things are not going the way that you had hoped and that you haven’t found what you are looking for in the relationship. It may be of benefit to also mention that you do not think it is fair to them to continue on when you feel this way. It would not be honest or sincere. See, there is no need to duck and dart through text. A break up can be addressed in an adult manner. This approach may even cut down on the stalking issue as there is some closure involved in a phone call; one would hope. An IJNTIY ( I’m just not that into you)text could lead to wandering minds and midnight drunk- texts…yeah, those are always welcomed and viewed as stable…not! So, take the high road and go “old school: make the phone call. Leave the texting for the teens!
