Trust
Posted on January 04, 2013 by Bryan Engelbert, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
why trust is so important to ourselves, others and our overall mental health
We all have it because we all need it, we all need it because we all want to give it, and we all give it because we need it to be broken, because when it breaks one of two things can happen to it. It can come back deeper and stronger then before or it doesn’t come back at all but no matter what it never comes back the same as it left.
This is the cycle of trust; it is the glue that holds our world together. Without it we would be very alone relying only in ourselves and our abilities. But then if you think about it what abilities would we have. If we do not trust our teacher and they do not trust us why bother learning what they know and likewise why teach us what we don’t care to be taught. We wouldn’t even have teachers because everything known to man was once learned at some point by someone in the past. It was only by trusting in the past and believing that it would lead to a better future were we able to grow as humans passing on our knowledge through the generations.
A lot of people will tell you, their trust has to be earned, which is not exactly an easy task. How can you prove to someone you are worthy of their trust if they will not allow you the opportunity to be trusted. The answer is the golden rule, the rule that exists in almost all religious teachings across the world. The golden rule has many different wordings all with the same message, “treat others how you would want to be treated”. Show that person that you trust them, let them know that even if they don’t trust you yet, you still trust them. Now this won’t always turn out well sometimes your trust will be broken and when it does you will have reached the most important stage in the circle of trust. Will you lose that glue or will you apply more glue and show them that even though they broke your trust you are willing to give them another chance.
Would you yourself not want a second chance to prove you can be trusted if you were the person who broke trust? What would you do with your second chance? Would you again break the glue or would you apply your own glue and reciprocate the trust in an attempt to rebuild stronger then before because surely two kinds of glue are better than one.
Sticking with that notion it would be a logical conclusion that the more trust that holds the bond together the stronger the bond. What this creates is a team and just as any athlete will tell you there is no stronger bond than that of a long time team mate. This explains why a team of moderately skilled players with great chemistry are able to beat a team full of great individuals who do not trust each other. I used to think a strong team was one with strong leadership and loyal followers. But you cannot lead if no one will follow and you can not follow if you cannot be led. What a team needs is glue to link the leader with a follower or a teacher with a student.
The teams with the best chemistry are the ones that build their bond one step further. They take down the walls that a teacher must lead and a student must follow they use two trust so that the student becomes the leader and the teacher the follower until no distinction between the two can be made and the team is now one of equals. Each with their own unique past all working in harmony trusting that together they can bring about a better future for both themselves and for those not yet in the circle of trust.
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