Keep It Real! Keep it Honest! Keep It YOU.
Posted on December 31, 2012 by Pauline Haynes, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
Resolutions can last for a month (if you're lucky). Intentions involve your total and absolute commitment.!
As we bid farewell to 2012 and enter a new year, just about everyone is scurrying around frantically trying to to get his or her resolutions named, noted, and perhaps shared.
Oh, so much busy-ness! It almost makes me dizzy.
Newspapers, magazines, blogs, radio shows and social site comments are all focused on The New Year Resolutions.
There is nothing inherently wrong with that. Absolutely nothing. I’m just saying…Get out of the blooming box! However you can. Crawl, kick, punch. Just get out of the damn box. Please. You must!!
It’s for your sake. Not mine. It’s time to have the courage to face and overcome inner obstacles.
No use setting resolutions unless and until you take a good look inside YOU.
I realize how many people are crippled by fear. Shame. Embarassment. Un-worthiness and disquiet.
This will not speak to everyone, but for the folks, with whom this resonates, listen up!
If you are desperately wanting to be in a relationship – get a relationship! You might have to begin with you but that’s all right! In fact it’s more than all right. It’s the only place to begin.
If you want out of a relationship – get the heck out, if it’s not serving you or the other person. Relationships begin, and they end.
Stop being a wuss! Enough already. Walk away.
Don’t stay for the children. The children know it’s jacked up. They are also unhappy.
Don’t stay because of finances. Get some backbone and be ok with starting over. It’s not easy. It’s possible.
Are the material possessions and status more important than your peace of mind? Only you can answer that. But it requires honesty!
You’ve lost all your friends, because you’re now penniless. Jump for joy!
If they were your friends when you had money, they will be your friends when you are broke. Friendship is not predicated on what you have. It’s about who you are. If they’ve stayed away. Perhaps it’s time to say good riddance.
Feeling insecure because you’ve made several attempts at the perfect job or the next business, and they’ve all failed? Time for rejoicing.
Failure is not for the faint of heart. Failure is for the ones, who will fall down, get bruised, get up, and start again. And again. And again.
As long as you’re not dead – you CAN begin again.
Ask any person who is enjoying success. They’ll tell you about their miss-steps and more importantly, their learnings.
Ever notice how when you’re “successful” you’re more attractive?
Heaven help you if you’ve lost your house to foreclosure, or a divorce. You’re avoided like the plague. Your best friend might suddenly be more possessive of their husbands while in your presence.
You’ll get some sympathy if you’ve lost everything in a hurricane, a fire, a tornado or other “Acts of God.”
Makes me wonder if God is selective about the Acts, or are they random? That’s a whole other discussion.
Are your creditors calling and demanding payment? But you don’t have the money? Heck, if the United States can’t get its fiscal house in order, cut yourself some slack. Being in debt is not the end of the world! Who isn’t in debt?
They’ll have to wait. They can wait. They will wait, and they can make your life hell – if you let them.
Folks, I’m not saying it’s easy. In fact, it’s down right hard. Life is a challenge! Be grateful for the challenges.
Shift Happens all the time.
Make your intentions for 2013 be about honesty. Be honest to yourself.
Let go of the shame. Let go of the feelings of un-deservedness. Learn from the failures (there’s really no such thing as failure).
Choose to be phenomenal, despite the odds. Choose to be magnificent, you are. Choose to be relevant. You’re here. Choose to grow from your mistakes. You have. Choose to welcome your misfortunes. They’ve made who you are….. becoming. You are the light. Shine brightly in 2013.
There, doesn’t that feel like you’ve shed some very heavy weight? Lighten the burden. This is your beginning. You are perfect just as you are, AND there’s work to be done.
This is not about resolutions. It’s about Shift.
It’s Happening!
