Are you Power "Full" or Power "Less"

Posted on November 27, 2012 by Jim Pehkonen, One of Thousands of Executive Coaches on Noomii.

How are you doing right now? You get to say … Power ‘full’ or power ‘less’ …

Yet, what about the state of the world? What about my bank balance? What about ‘the pain?’

The beauty of our mind is we always get to say how it is …

Our thoughts flow like a river … yet when a side pool of thought is created, we think we are stuck in that thinking. Especially if the side pool is filled with powerless thoughts. Once you grab on to a powerless thought; once your side pool of thinking is filled with powerless thoughts, you seem to attract more and more and more powerless thoughts. They may even begin to take you into a spiral down … literally a whirlpool of powerless thoughts. And as you mentally spin and spin and spin, it created the tide pool of powerlessness, hopelessness, and stagnation …

And as we seek to ‘push’ the thoughts away, we seem to just get deeper and deeper into that thought …

A real life example:

I once had a client who we discussed this as part of her coaching. She would wake up in an incredibly nasty mood, and that is the mood she would carry through the day. She would deny the mood, saying “I AM NOT NASTY.” OK, she used another word, and you get the point. By denying the mood, she pushed it down and actually empowered it in who she was …

My coaching to her was to BE in the mood, stop trying to deny it. AND, powerfully see yourself in that mood. “But I’m not nasty” she would say … “I’m not NASTY.” While we worked together, this is one thing she did not fully comprehend. A little over a year after we completed our work together, I got a phone call mid-afternoon. It was her and she was full of excitement … “It worked … It worked” she exclaimed, “It really worked.” Due to the time since we had worked together, I was not sure what worked, and I asked her to explain. “I woke up in a really nasty mood AGAIN and I surrendered and was just nasty … 20 minutes later, it was gone and I’m having a wonderful day … THANKS!” In checking with her a week later, she was still beaming!

Now look at you and thoughts that come through you. Have you ever surrendered to the thought … acknowledged its presence … felt it to the point that it just drifted away … it loses its grip on you …

Our thoughts flow like a river. Allow your thoughts to flow … they are just thoughts. They don’t mean anything until we give them meaning and power (through the emotion you choose with your thoughts).

And, with a little awareness, you can choose your thoughts. Being aware is one of the greatest things. Almost as if you are watching yourself think. When you are watching yourself thinking, you become aware of the many thoughts you have the option to choose AND you can also become aware of the emotions you can select with each thought.

A thought is selected and you tag an emotion to it. THAT is who you get to BE in the moment. And, if the thought selected does not empower you, let it go. It can be that easy …

Were you in a ‘stress’ filled situation in the last week with Thanksgiving? If you reflect on it, can you see you selected a stress thought and most likely enrolled / engaged another in your train of thinking. Or they enrolled / engaged YOU … and you both (all) engaged in the thoughts …

So for this week, begin to notice that you are a thought filled person who can select and empowering / dis-empowering thought. You get to choose. You then choose the emotion you bring with the thought. Become aware of this … it is fundamental to the nature of thought. Through awareness, you will learn to select your thoughts … select an emotion … this in the face of whatever is in front of you.

So this week, become aware of your thinking … ‘see’ your thoughts and then ‘see’ the emotion you choose with the thought. Begin to select the thought and the emotion. Drop me a line and share what you ‘see.’

AND, if you would like to shift your experience of life, contact me … Create an AMAZING day!!