Do You Have Closet Space In Your Relationship Closet?

Posted on November 23, 2012 by Trudy-Ann Ewan, One of Thousands of Spirituality Coaches on Noomii.

The search never ends. We want to find a respectable mate. We want to find a mate that respects us; one we can take home to meet the parents or parade around at the office party; maybe we are searching for a mate because our Mother’s keep bugging us about Grandkids or reminding us that we are not getting any younger. We attend the “Mates for Jesus” soirees (yes, these does exist), we go to Museums because we are told that respectable mates who are cultured visit Museums. The thing is that other person "ain’t respectable but they heard that cultured people who could be possible mates visit Museums too.

We get Library cards and sit in the “intellectual looking” section hoping Mr/Mrs. Right will walk in and sit next to us. Just to increase our odds we turn to the Internet to the various dating sites to have technology find our perfect Match. If it wasn’t bad enough that we go through all that trouble just to get hitched we turn around and find that we don’t even have the closet space if someone did want to move in. So do you have enough closet space? Is your life sending the message that you are ready to have someone in your life? Are you opening up your life? If there is no available opening then no one will apply. They will see a “no vacancy” sign hanging over your head.

We say we want a mate, but many of us are still operating as if we are single. You can’t act single, but, yet is looking to share your life with someone else. You will only attract other single people. That sounded crazy, didn’t it? Here’s what that statement means. If you desire to get married or to have a decent relationship, yet you are still operating in single mode then you are sending out the wrong message. Now, it is true that sometimes we meet the right one when we are not looking. However, if we are still thinking about ourselves and not thinking about the other person, that is in essence still having the single life. You have not yet opened up yourself to a relationship that includes two people instead of one. If you are use to thinking only for yourself and making decisions for yourself alone or for others then you will not be familiar with standing still and let someone else make decisions for themselves. Maybe you have been the caretaker for your family for so long and you have been single for that long that you have become so used to being alone in your life. You may not even realize that you may not have enough closet space for someone else to step into your life.

Do you know how frustrating it is to meet the right person only to lose them and then realize that you had never opened the door to invite them in? They were standing right at your doorsteps and you were on the other side looking through the peephole wondering why they aren’t entering. That’s because you still had the door shut tightly in their face. They waited, and waited, in the rain, in the snow until they could take it no more. They walked away.

Before a new relationship can step into our lives, our love house needs a proper spring cleaning. Some relationships will sit there waiting for you to clean house before it will step in. Others won’t wait around. You could view those as not meant to be or that their purpose was to help you become aware that you needed to clean, restore and redecorate your love house. Once you have located the rooms in your love house that needs to be cleaned and you have dusted, aired, vacuumed and redecorated, you now have available closet space. So the question to you is: Do you have available Closet Space?

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