Big Fat Happiness Coaching Philosophy

Posted on November 13, 2012 by David Ruch, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.

Big Fat Happiness has identified these 7 statements as our core philosophy of coaching. They reveal how we see people, understand change and define the benefits of coaching. As we all seek to articulate and finesse these critical issues what we focus on, the meaning we give it and what we choose to do impact our ability to truly live a life of happiness and achievement. We believe we all are at our best to the degree we can live our life on purpose.

1. You are absolutely unique and gifted. Living your life becomes the here and now opportunity for you to discover, master and express that uniqueness.

2. You are hard wired to do something unlike anyone else. You already seek naturally to express what this is. Developing the ability to understand and add language to this uniqueness enables you to create more opportunities to do what it is you naturally do and obviously love to do.

3. The process of what Don Miguel Ruiz in his book The Four Agreements calls “Domestication” or the socialization process can cause you to lose the awareness of your uniqueness or at best set up difficulties that create a struggle to maintain your unique expression against the authority figures and power brokers in your family of origin. This socialization while it enables societies and communities to form often for a majority of individuals creates an atmosphere of fear and compliance. It is here often at an early age that you lose your ability to hear your own unique voice. As you become an adult you easily see life as transactions consisting of comparing yourself to others, competing out of a model of sacristy rather than abundance and rarely have the power or permission to be yourself. Complaining about all that is wrong and feeling victimized and powerless sets up an attitude of just getting buy or coping. In that kind of environment you become risk averse and fearful of expressing your individuality. Being “like” others and fitting in become your task even as you ache inside for your own opportunity to be known for who you are.

4. Self awareness, self compassion, self mastery and self expression become the path for you when you determine to recover your best self and create your best life.

5. The playground, if you will for experimenting with these skills mentioned above is in the decisions you make in managing these five life values. These five values become the window you look into and through as you make decisions about everyday happiness. The five values run on a continuum of understanding, desire, ownership and expression. These are noted here.

• Balance between security, survival, risk and adventure
• Being yourself but longing to commit to something worth dying for.
• Doing more of what you love and want to do and finding leisure or time to not do.
• Finding balance in belonging but maintaining autonomy and solitude.
• Living a life of significance but knowing your true significance transcends here and now.

6. To master this path back to your uniqueness requires a decision to begin and most often partnering with others who will support, encourage and guide you along the way.

7. This path becomes a lifestyle and offers you insights and lessons which become the foundation of your life expression and the wealth of experience from which you then serve others.