What Choices Will You Make to Improve Your Life?
Posted on September 21, 2012 by Karen Andersen, One of Thousands of Career Coaches on Noomii.
When you remain stuck in the past, exciting possibilities cannot be created. Focus on the NOW, where your choices can begin to bring you solutions.
As the seasons change, old ideas that don’t work for you may begin to fall away. Just as the brilliant autumn leaves enhance their beauty by gently releasing their attachment to familiarity, we can shift from ideas that don’t work for us to those that begin to reflect who we are becoming.
When you remain stuck in the past, emerging and exciting possibilities cannot exist in the present. Begin to focus on the NOW, where your choices and positive thoughts can begin to bring you solutions.
With effort and attention, your negative thoughts can be changed into more inspirational ones that will help you make better choices for yourself.
1. Ask if the negative thought is really true for you or not. For example, is the fear you feel invisible, or does it threaten your physical safety?
2. How is it helping you to worry about something that may not even occur? Do you have that much time and energy to waste on unproductive concerns?
3. You can choose a more positive thought or idea to express instead. The book, “Every Word Has Power,” by Yvonne Oswald is an incredibly valuable tool to help you with this.
Are you stuck in a routine that you’d like to escape? What choices can you make today that can allow you to feel more empowered and happier? What delightful opportunities have you been imagining for yourself? Have you been ignoring or listening to the voice of your intuition?
The longing for love, renewal and rebirth are intrinsic to who we are inside. How well do you meet your needs for connection and belonging, freedom, self expression, contribution, safety, appreciation, and self-worth?
If you are a workaholic, you may discover that working so many hours removes the necessity to get your own emotional needs met.
When you are feeling overwhelmed and tired, or feel like a martyr, what opportunities are available for you to receive the rewards from rest and relaxation, imagination, pleasure, and contemplation? Will eating lunch at your desk make you more productive, or will a walk outdoors renew your vitality and give you a fresh perspective? You get to choose.
Does having a certain amount of money make you feel safe and secure? What emotional needs does money meet in your life? Does a 9 to 5 job really reflect a sense of job “security” for you or has it become a place where you go to feel visible and important, or perhaps invisible? How are your own perceptions affecting your day to day reality?
As Deepika Sheleff, a somatic coach offers, “Would it be possible to take care of your emotional needs directly, instead of expecting money to do that for you?” Whose power are you manifesting in your life – your own, or someone else’s version of it?
If it’s true that our brains are processing 60,000 thoughts each day, what actions can you take to allow some of those thoughts that don’t serve you, to gently fall away? As the leaves fall from the trees in an effortless dance of bliss, perhaps simplifying your life and having less concerns to think about would lead to the freedom you seek.
Would you consider accessing your intuition and inner wisdom through prayer and daily meditation, or are you afraid of the scary things you might discover about yourself? Why not give it a whirl?
When you’re ready to go deeper into emotional issues that are causing you anxiety or confusion, coaching can really help to shift your perspectives. Coaching helps move you forward so you’re not stuck in the past where nothing can change, or ever will.
