Empowering yourself through self-discovery
Posted on September 12, 2012 by Cynthia Belmer, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
How to understand who you truly are vs what you think you are
Do you often find yourself doing and struggling with so many “wants” hoping to unleash your life purpose?
Humans create the most ideal and perfect self-image for themselves. I did some research and self-study on this concept and I realized that how it pushes human beings to achieve things we don’t necessarily want in our life: It creates an internal competition, it is irrational and apathetic to our actual being. We think we are someone we are not and we think that we want things that we actually do not want.
I came up with a list of things that would help you in this self-discovery journey:
1- Go through the exercise of writing down who your ideal self is and then write down where you actually are in your life today. Write it with love and compassion towards yourself. This is a step forward towards self-realization.
2- Accept yourself for who you are in this moment. Let go of your judgements, they are only an illusion.
3- Admit your strengths, it will make you confident and be more open to serve the world.
4- Admit your weaknesses, it will make you humble and compassionate.
5- Watch your patterns and any dynamic you might have that is related to the list you created for your ideal self. Investigate the root cause of these patterns. For example: if your ideal self wants to earn 10 degrees, notice if you are constantly striving to get more in your real life and ask yourself: what are you trying to validate?
6- Don’t strive for constant self-improvement. It is exhausting and will make you feel that you are never enough. You are perfect just as you are because this is where you need to be in this moment.
7- Allow yourself to be the passenger instead of being the driver. Let go of controlling every aspect of your life, you need a break.
8- Take 10 minutes every day to reflect on who you are. No excuses about not having time: You owe it to yourself.
9- If you are feeling down, angry, happy or whatever emotions you are holding onto, let them be without beating yourself up. You’ll learn more self-love and self-compassion.
10- When you let go of constantly trying to be what you are not, you will realize who you truly are.
