The Presence of Presence!!
Posted on August 09, 2012 by Jim Pehkonen, One of Thousands of Executive Coaches on Noomii.
The art of Boundaries and Presence ... How Present are you?
Presence – the ability to BE in the moment right here, right now.
Presence – How often are you ‘present’ in the world?
Presence for me is the space where you are aware of where you are / who you are with / the situation at hand … with NOTHING else in your mind … you just get to be with the situation as it is right now …
With awareness of your thoughts, creating the space of your day when you first wake up … now is the time to BE present. Notice that when you are in conversation, are you listening to each word the person speaking is saying? Or are you thinking about a thought, your cell phone, your response, maybe you are internally wondering why you are in this place … all of these take your presence away and leave you dis-empowered …
An example – I answered a phone call – the caller asked how much time I had … “about 10 minutes” … the caller began speaking … and speaking … and speaking … I was not present, just watching the minutes tick by … 27 minutes later I was furious … not at the caller, I was furious with me … I was not honoring the boundary I had established … I was seeing all the places I do not honor my boundaries … I was not present to ANYTHING the caller was saying … I finally spoke up – “I had a client in 4 minutes” … the person stopped talking and just hung up … later we chatted and I said I had not honored my boundaries … and stopped being present with the caller … I saw and learned …
So this week … practice presence … notice when you are present and when you not present. NOTE: no judgment, just awareness … the art of holding presence has us flowing in and out of being present.
Once you notice, see what takes you out of presence … these are the thoughts which take you out of presence … let them go … step back into presence. Once you develop and understanding and an awareness, presence will become second nature to you … It is learning to become aware and allowing your amazing deep inner nature to be what is once as a baby – present!
So, create a present week … and see what arises …
