What's Right With You?

Posted on July 26, 2012 by Wynoami Glasser, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.

What’s right with people?

How often do we ask that question? Not often at all. In fact many of us have never asked that question. What would the world be like if we did? What would your life be like if you asked, “what’s right with me?”

We are a population obsessed with weakness meaning we are constantly finding new ways to uncover weakness, limited beliefs, and shortcomings. We have been lead to believe that if we can find those weaknesses and either turn them into strengths or destroy them all together we will finally reach success, our goals, our dreams. How’s that working out for us? It ain’t. I know.

When I was ten years old I decided I was going to become a professional actor. I reminded my mother daily that I was going to do it. I got nothing but support from my family and friends. As I set out on that journey I quickly encountered insecurity and self-doubt: how was I going to do it? am I good enough? pretty enough? talented enough? Do I need to move to LA or New York? etc. But every time I got on stage, I rocked the house. I felt at ease in front of an audience. I understood how to translate a script into a believable living moment. Analyzing the script and making character choices was the most fun. Rehearsing was a close second. But ultimately I was stopped. Once I graduated from the University of Tulsa with a bachelor’s degree in theatre, I had no clue what to do. I had no plan or strategy and no one to guide me to one. I began to search and every time I did I fell onto a weakness. “I don’t know anything about business, I don’t know about marketing or branding, I’m not an out-going and vivacious person so I need to get louder and more extroverted.” So-on and so forth. When I realized I was making little progress I decided something was wrong with me. Sound familiar?

There is and never was anything wrong with me and there isn’t anything wrong with you either.

Through my continued search to “fix” me I found out that my problem wasn’t weakness it was my attention to it. Tom Rath’s Strengths Finder 2.0 finally gave me some light. I know what my natural talents are because of the assessment he created along with the Gallup research team and the work of the late Father of Strengths Psychology, Donald O. Clifton. Focusing on my talents and developing them into strengths has given me an edge; they are my advantage over my competitors and they are the bridges to my partnerships. My strengths provide a solid foundation on which I build relationships, create my most productive work, make professional choices, and pretty much anything and everything I do. I know now why I public speaking is easy and fun for me, why when faced with an obstacle I easily find a path to the other side, why I work best under pressure, why I can look so far ahead into the future, why I believe we are all connected and how, after hearing your story, I can tell you exactly what is tripping you up and how you can deal with it. You can know it all too.

Studies done by Gallup surveys of more than 10 million people show that those “who do have the opportunity to focus on their strengths every day are six times more likely to be engaged in their jobs and more than three times more likely to report having an excellent quality of life in general.” (Tim Rath, Gallup Research, Strengths Finder 2.0 2007) Remarkable wouldn’t you say?

I aim to serve individuals with my expertise as a coach and trainer. I lead with my strengths and it is my desire to help you lead from yours. When I can coach and teach you by speaking to your strengths, you learn in ways that are perfectly tailored to you and that are fun. When you lead from your strengths you become more productive in all areas important to you, your work immediately becomes more valuable to others, and best of all, you know where you are going and why.

So, what’s right with you? I am so curious to find out. Shine on.