Parenting With A Plan
Posted on July 10, 2012 by Brian Woodworth, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
Why is it that too often parents don't have a plan on how to raise their children???
I recently got the opportunity to spend time with a VERY special person in my life who has a VERY precious little girl who is ADORABLE and my little buddy. What I came away with is a really amazing thought about parenting and human behavior.
Why is it that too often parents don’t have a plan as to what kind of child they want to raise and what type of adult they want their child to become? I find it interesting that more parents spend more time creating there child to be something (doctor, lawyers, athletes, etc.) instead of creating them to be AMAZING human beings. I’m talking about a child and eventually an adult that will have good morals, values and character who then, if THEY chose can become whatever they want because they are who they ARE.
I know I will get the parents that say “Brian, you just don’t understand because you don’t have kids.” My response to that is this has NOTHING to do with having kids or not having kids. This has to do with having a clear plan as to what you want your child to be as an adult and simple human behavior. Not staying in the “survival mode” as I know that many parents find themselves in because they don’t have that plan.
Just like anything in life, if WE don’t know exactly what it is that we want (in every detail), how can we ever actually create it and make it reality. Children are NO different. If WE want are children to have certain morals, values and characteristics WE have to have a plan with action steps to accomplish this. It WILL NOT just happen. If we continue to think that they will eventually just learn it on their own it will be too late by then. At that point we have to re-build and correct things that could have been taught from the beginning. How is that fair to the child that we love and are raising?
So I ask EVERYONE (with or without children), what kind of adult do you want your children to grow up to be. What values do you want them to have? What characteristics do you want them to have? What type of morals? When you come up with that answer ask yourself honestly “am I parenting my children in a way with specific action steps that will create what I want my child/children to be as an adult?” I would bet that if most are honest with themselves the answer will be an overwhelming, “NO I AM NOT.” This is because most people have not even been taught to think this way or even parent this way. Too often parents find themselves in the fight of their lives with their children and are just trying to get by and survive. So let’s stop perpetuating a flawed way of raising our children and start creating AMAZING human beings at an early age. Don’t we owe it to our young people!?
And for those who need help doing this, reach out to me and let’s do this together for your family and your children.
Oh, and if I have my way, that ADORABLE little buddy I mentioned above will forever have me in her life as her number one fan and I WILL help create her to be the most extraordinary human being ever. Shine on great humans and remember to love, love, love like crazy!!! Be Blessed!
