What's Holding You Back?

Posted on April 26, 2012 by Victoria Coronado, One of Thousands of Business Coaches on Noomii.

You have a dream. It’s a powerful desire for something you want in your life. Perhaps it is the goal of being an entrepreneur, owning a home, or losing weight. You want this thing so much it almost hurts. You have read books on positive thinking, Law of Attraction, and manifesting, yet still your dream eludes you. It seems like it is “just out of reach”. And you’re right- it is. Until you can identify and remove the blocks that keep you from receiving, your dream will always remain just out of reach.

So, how do you identify your blocks? How do find out what might be keeping you from having all that you want and desire? As a Life Coach I can help you identify your core beliefs and challenge you to transform them into new, powerful beliefs that support your goals. However, there are tools that I use to help my clients do this, and today I would like to share one of those with you.

It is a simple, effective way to help you identify the unconscious beliefs that do not align with your conscious desires. It is important to discover what these are so that you can bring them into your conscious awareness. Once you become aware, you can actively choose to work through those counterproductive beliefs, replacing them with ones that support the manifestation of your desires.

To illustrate how this tool works, let’s use the example of a couple, Jessica and Ron. They are in their early thirties, have two children and two cars. They currently own a small home, and are considered to be in the low to middle class income bracket. Ron works full-time as a software programmer. He makes enough money to cover all of the family’s needs, and Jessica works part-time as a receptionist to pay for some of the family’s wants. The children attend an elementary school that is decent, but not exceptional. The children have many friends at the elementary school, but Jessica and Ron are aware of a huge shift in the level of safety and academic success at the middle and high school levels. They do not want their children to attend school in this district past the elementary level. Jessica and Ron feel close to their extended families who live just a few miles away. They often rely on Ron’s mom to babysit when the children are sick, or they have a night out.

The couple feels that their home has become too small for their family. The home is so small it is difficult to have friends or family over for gatherings. In addition, the home seems to always be in constant need of repair. Jessica and Ron have an intense desire to move to a better neighborhood, with better schools, and a larger, newer home. They have a very clear idea of what type of home they want, but it seems out of reach. No matter how many techniques they use to try to make their dream a reality, the perfect home has not manifested. It becomes to clear to them that there must be something holding them back.

So, they hire me as their Life Coach and I give them this simple tool to use right away. When we are finished, they are amazed to see what has been holding them back. Here are the instructions I give them:

1. Number your page from 1-10 vertically

2. Set a timer for 1 minute

3. Without thinking write down ten reasons why you don’t want a new home.

You must come up with ten and you only have one minute

Go!

When you are given this task, there is no time for reasoning, judging, or self-editing your responses. You will only have time to jot down what your true core beliefs really are. This is a powerful exercise that will unlock the mystery behind what is holding you back. Once you have that information, you can set an intention that will manifest exactly what your heart truly wants.

Jessica and Ron each come up with ten reasons they don’t want a new home. Here are their 10 common core beliefs:

1. A new home will cost too much; we barely have enough to cover our current mortgage
2. Our credit rating is too low; we won’t qualify for a new mortgage
3. Selling our current home will be a hassle
4. Our siblings may be jealous of our bigger home; who do we think we are?
5. The kids will be upset to leave their friends
6. Nicer neighborhoods are too far away from our families; we need help with the kids
7. We won’t have enough furniture for a bigger home; no money to buy furniture
8. What if we don’t like our new neighbors?
9. Our commute to work may be longer
10. We should just be grateful for what we have; not ask for anything better

Taking this list, Jessica and Ron now have an incredible blueprint for using the Law of Attraction to consciously manifest their dream home. They don’t get stuck in their list of fears and worries, they simply use them to remove the blocks to receiving. Instead of simply saying “we want a dream home”, they created a statement of intention that looks like this:

“We intend to buy a newer home in a fantastic neighborhood that is close to our families. We have more than enough money to cover the cost of our new home and furnish it beautifully. Our siblings are very happy for us, and remark how nice it is to have more room to gather for parties. The kids are not upset to leave their friends because we live close enough to visit often. The new school district is exemplary and the children are always safe. Our commute to work is actually less time than it is now! We found a mortgage lender who qualifies us easily, and our home sells effortlessly. We are so grateful for the time we have spent in our little house, but we are overjoyed with the new home we have manifested!”

Do you see how creating a list of unconscious beliefs can be used to create an intention with laser-like focus? Notice also how this intention is written in the present-tense. This is key, because in doing so you are bringing the future into the present and accelerating the manifestation of your desire.

Jessica and Ron do not worry about how their dream will manifest. They keep their eyes open for homes for sale in neighborhoods that meet their criteria. During the next year, Ron receives a promotion at work with a pay raise. They use this money to pay down their debt, which raises their credit score. They find a mortgage lender who gives them a pre-approval letter. Their Realtor calls them and informs them that there is a home for sale that meets all of their criteria; and it is a foreclosure. If they act quickly, they may be able put in a bid to buy the home. They have a maximum amount they are willing to spend, but they bid 10K less than that amount. They win the bid. Now they have extra funds to furnish their home as well! They have a huge house-warming party and all of their friends and family come over and tell them how happy they are for their new home. The children have their friends over often, and make new friends as well. Jessica and Ron are welcomed into the neighborhood and form friendships with their new neighbors. The commute is actually five miles closer to the office, and Ron’s mom is very happy to come over to help out with the kids when needed.

Through finding out what unconscious beliefs were holding them back, they were able to remove those obstacles with awareness, focus their intention with precision, and manifest their dream home within a year! Imagine what you could do if you applied this very simple, yet effective tool!

You have ONE minute… ready, set, GO!!!!!