The HoneyMoon is over!
Posted on March 26, 2012 by Corinne Valentine, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
What do you do when you started that new goal and the motivation is starting to burn out?
The Honeymoon is over.
It is going on six weeks since you made your New Years Resolution. The Honeymoon phase is over. Motivation towards a new goal is very high in the beginning. Especially, in the first two weeks. Now the obstacles of life has set in. You are working overtime and are too tired. You got sick and missed a week and you can’t seem to get back into it. There was a wedding, a party or a vacation that set you back. Etc, Etc, Etc.
THIS WEEKS QUESTION: What are you doing to stay on track with your Goal?
You started with a plan in the beginning and you fell off track:
Give yourself a break, brush yourself off and start again. Just because you missed sometime does not mean you need to wait until a better time to start, comes along. GOALS ARE HARD, no time may be a good time. If your plan was good and was working for you, pick a date and start again. If your plan was not working for you, decided on new strategies, pick a date and start again.
Your goal became more stressful, overwhelming, and was not making you happy:
Take a moment to breath and ask yourself is this something I really want? If the answer is no, then don’t wait until January 2013 to pick a new one, pick something you do want and GO!
Maybe you picked too many goals and are stressed because they are all going south at the same time and you can not keep up. SET yourself up for SUCCESS. Drop them all except for one. Focusing on one at a time will give you the balance to focus on your daily responsibilities, be with your family and take some time each day for your one goal. Sometimes doing one goal at a time is not the slow way yet, the smart way.
Also, maybe you did pick one goal and it is still too much because something else that’s time-consuming came up, you have a heavier work schedule, whatever it may be. Don’t give up on it all together. Ask yourself realistically how much time can I give toward my goal? If your goal was to exercise five days a week for an hour each time, maybe you have to start out with three times a week or 30 minute workouts. Any movement toward your goal is better than no movement at all.
Your social life is making it difficult to succeed:
Sacrifice is not easy, yet it is necessary sometimes to ensure success. If you want to lose weight and continue to go out to dinner each week knowing it will only tempt you, you will have to stay home until you’re ready to order the grilled chicken or that salad instead. If you don’t want to have anymore late nights with your friends then start gathering during the day. Invite people over for a healthy lunch instead of meeting them at the buffet. Find alternatives that will work for you. Remind yourselves how you feel when you stray from your goal and how you feel when you stick with your goal. Keep repeating this to yourself until it’s at the forefront of your mind.
KEEP MOVING FORWARD:
Goals can be frustrating and tiring. Especially when you are not seeing results right away. It takes time to shrink that waist line, it takes time to heal that relationship, to be a better parent, to get rid of a bad habit. Enroll Support. Get a goal buddy, an accountability partner, hire a life coach. Give yourself small rewards for each week you complete. YOU CAN DO THIS!
WEEKLY TIP : Get back up, Re-evaluate, Remove the obstacle, Refocus on the value you are gaining from your success, and GO!
THIS WEEK: BE FULL OF CONFIDENCE!
