Accepting Change to Accept the Real Power of You

Posted on March 13, 2012 by Marrian Efua, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.

CHANGE
Adversities are the stepping stones to greatness. Change is often seen as strenuous task that requires us to give up something or someone. However, I‘ve experienced that change is inevitable. In the words of Benard Ighner “Everything must change, nothing stays the same everything must change.” As we progress in our lives we experience numerous changes. For me it was becoming a mother, a divorcee, a grad student, and finally someone willing to accept that my body as the years went by was definitely changing. Yet, I managed to preserve, adjust and adapt and address the results of the changes. Change may not always be what you want at that time but it is what you need at that time. Change is a push from the creator to get us to address, accept or remove some entity or about ourselves. When we surrender to that push or nudge from the creator we find that balance is typically restored.
When I was faced with having to move out my home of 18 years because I could no longer afford it; I dreaded it. I felt that I had failed. Although ,I knew keeping the home would be an ever greater failure if foreclosure happened. The divorce didn’t bother, the change in income didn’t bother me but the impending change of my address did. So I took a trip and some time to think about it. In my quiet, I allowed the fear of the hypothetical words of others regarding the selling of my home but in they’re words” losing my home.” That I was unstable or that I had made a mistake in divorcing. I had friends who offered to purchase the home or loan me money but clearly that was not the best option. So I prayed and meditated and stared into the sky then suddenly a small voice said “Sell the home and write down the type of home you want.” I also discovered that by staying in the home kept me connected to discourse, disrespect and limitations that occurred while in the home. And so I did as told. I wanted a single family with a yard in a nice area like one my children were used to. The next week I contacted a realtor who listed the property without a big sign in front of my home and I began the search for a new home. It was horrible. Then one night I was awaken and told to get on the computer and type in “four bedroom two bath single family in my hometown.” It took me to two sights the second one only photos popped up. There it was I was amazed. “Private showing only by appointment for single family home.” Brick five bedroom with a sun room, fireplace, living room, dining room, fenced yard, basement, garage and driveway and in my same area. It was more than I asked for but exactly what I needed. The next day I met the owner as she showed me the home she introduced me to neighbors, and spoke as if I had already leased the home. Three days later I did, 3 months later she sold me the home in a private sale that she arranged with her bank. Whew! All of that just by changing my address; Not really. It was not about the address as much it was about me letting go the comfort and limitations of that environment. Once I surrendered to the guidance of the creator everything fell into place. I became a homeowner with a manageable payment, a graduate student, and found the courage to begin my organization to assist young girls and women in the home. The importance of my need to change was also seen in a plant that had died years before during my divorce. In preparation of the move I placed it outside to dump. On my final day of moving I noticed that a bud was on the plant. Change does bring growth .
When change occurs it is not the time to wallow and have a pity party and question why? Change is the catalyst to find your joy in life, a confirmation that you becoming closer to your predestined greatness. Change is initially difficult because we have to adjust to the unknown and leave what is comfortable. Just as I adjusted and surrendered to the change. What appeared as adversity became my motivation and step stool.
Adversities allow for you and develop a strategic plan of action. When an athlete is training they are given resistance training to build muscle and endurance; this how you must you look at your adversities and remember that our lives are a mirror of the creation we live in. The world has many different climates and seasons. Seasons change as well as your needs. The creator is aware so when change is necessary its facilitated.
All of us began our lives receiving nourishment from milk; but soon we required something of more substance that would fulfill our need (change). We also had to be burped to get rid of the extra air that came in with the milk or meal. Life is that same way. People come into our lives and give us what we need we have to remember burp up the things that are not conducive and unnecessary to complete our reality and to walk in our destiny. This is how we grow. We cannot grow in crowded space filled with clutter or toxins.
The issues of your past are only links on a self-created chain that can prevent us from moving, thinking, and feeling freely and clearly for our good. We hold on the memories of our childhood, the last relationship. Decide today to unlink the chain and step toward your divine destiny and reality. Knowledge is a great thing, it expands beyond the climax of how to and reaches the depths of wisdom. It the impenetrable, immoveable wisdom assists us in determining just how much power or energy to exert. To correct a problem, address an issue, or situation. Do not beat yourself up by resisting change. Remember to Relax, recognize the situation, rethink it (only once) accept the resolution then release it. You cannot change your past, you must live in the present and prepare and plan for your greater future. Change requires us to align with the will of the creator. Everything else is guarantee to change for the better.
Breathe and lets start anew