You Are Worth It!

Posted on February 13, 2012 by Maria McInnis, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.

Having appreciation for oneself is an important step in changing your life and habits. By having respect for your body, your ideas and your personal morals you open a new path to true self-discovery.

Many people are fearful of allowing themselves anything: they allow self made duties to get in the way, or they tell themselves that they aren’t worth much for one reason or another. There are two types of self appreciation: There is the type where you take stock of your personal worth through skills, life victories and gifts. Then there is the type where you show yourself some appreciation though actions and verbal affirmation.

Personal Worth

One of the biggest issues that people have in this world is accessing their personal worth. Many people feel poorly about their own worth – not in wealth, but in emotional, physical, mental and spiritual well being. What needs to be realized is that you, as a human being, are worth so much…you simply need to realize it.

In previous articles we have spoken about taking a stock and making a list of your strengths and of your victories. This is the first step to personal appreciation. To add to this, you must also look at the things you have to be thankful in your life. Everything has something to be thankful for.

In doing this you reveal things about yourself, and about the resources you have available to you. Think of this like a personal resume: you are putting down a list of your life experiences, the things you have learned, the skills you have gained and the references – or proof of these things – in everything you have to be thankful for: whether it’s your health or a roof, or those around you who you love. All of these things build up the resume of your life and make you able to face the world that is before you.

Being able to appraise your life in this manner helps to build a confidence in yourself and your abilities. Doing this can drastically change your life.

So…what do you do when you have proof of your self worth?

Methods of Self-Appreciation

When it comes to showing one’s self respect and awarding one’s self, many people feel uncomfortable or selfish. Most of the time we believe that others must come first, but sometimes you need to put yourself first. The importance is allowing a balance to occur between self aide and others. You cannot always do one or the other – both are important in a positive, healthy atmosphere.

By becoming self-deprecating and never allowing yourself any fun, or treats or even just a moment to yourself you begin to deny yourself the things you need. However, you achieve similar issues by never allowing people to go first. When you begin to do it all of the time then selfishness begins – you’ll push people away or cause them to self depreciate themselves. Always build priorities and take situations into account. The balance is important, and leaning one way or another too much can hurt both parties.

There is a three-fold part to this process, but all are important in building yourself up:

Stand Up for Yourself

You need to be willing to stand up for yourself. You need to be willing to say ‘No’ to things – whether its to someone who you won’t stand up to, or its to someone assuming that you will do a task that you don’t want to do. You are allowed to say No to people. You don’t have to be superman or wonder woman – you cannot be expected to always be the one to do something. You must be willing to speak up for yourself.

Many people experience fear when it comes to standing up to say no, or speaking their minds, but the point is not to let the fear overwhelm. Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the strength to do something anyway. By asserting yourself you gain personal power in your world. You allow people to note your presence and strengths.

The balance in standing up for yourself is to know when to speak, and when to remain silent. It is in knowing where aggression begins and how far to push something. If you never speak up, you can never be heard – just like if you never take a step, you’ll never go anywhere.

Take Time for your Mind, Body and Soul

Take time for yourself. Whether this means to take a jog around the block, or sit down with some music, you NEED at least ten minutes a day for yourself, and sometimes – every now and then – a day all to yourself.

Engage your brain in some manner, and take the time to step away from the world itself. Create “me” time – schedule it in if you have to! It is so important to do this. Stress and constant, consistent activity can be harmful to your body and mind.

There is truth in the quiet moments when you are allowed to simply be. No masks, no barriers and just the ability to have appreciation for the world and your own, unique and wonderful self. Taking the time to re-energize and renew your spirit allows you to take control in your life.

Find Out What You Want

Having a positive plan for the things you want is important to understanding yourself. It also allows you to create goals and plans for your future.

Here’s a list of things to ask yourself:

1. “I wish…”

2. “I want…”

3. “I need…”

4. “I have to…”

5. “I must…”

6. “I should…”

7. “I will…”

8. “I’m going to…”

9. “I am doing…”

10. “I am…”

Personal reflection upon things that we are doing in our lives and that need to be done can help us look forward into building our goals and our futures. Always ask yourself what can I do, and work from there.

Always use positives and never the things you DON’T want. By focusing on the positive things we want to have in our lives we help to find those things by opening up our eyes to the things around us.

By encompassing these three important things into your life, you help to teach yourself appreciation for who you are as a human being capable of changing your world.
“Quantum Performance Management ":http://www.qpmonline.com- Maria McInnis