Discovering Your Hidden Strengths

Posted on February 26, 2025 by Lina Bajandooh, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.

Growing up, we were constantly bombarded with the notion that weakness and vulnerability were synonymous with failure and inadequacy. Phrases like “strong boys don’t cry” or “be a good girl” illustrate how we’ve been conditioned to stigmatize our human vulnerabilities, feeling pressured to hide them out of fear of judgment or rejection. Yet, what if I told you that there’s no such a thing as weaknesses because within perceived weaknesses lie unexplored spaces, untapped potentials, and hidden strengths?

Yes! Weaknesses Don’t Exist:
I’m not talking here about physical matters but psychological ones. As spiritual beings, we are constantly changing, growing, and evolving mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Therefore, I personally don’t believe in the word ‘weakness,’ not due to any form of escapism, denial, or spiritual bypassing. Life has repeatedly taught me that what I once perceived as ‘weaknesses,’ or what people commonly refer to as ‘weaknesses,’ are simply unopened doors leading to unexplored spaces, hidden strengths, and untapped potentials.

Consider, for example, the fear of public speaking, which ranks as the most common fear globally, affecting up to 75% of the population. This highlights how humans perceive the fear of judgment, criticism, and rejection as more terrifying than death! This deeply rooted fear often originates from childhood and generational trauma and programming. But if you examine this fear on a deeper level, you’ll find that when people embrace their vulnerabilities and see their weaknesses as ways to explore their untapped potential, they discover immense joy and satisfaction in expressing themselves and forming deep connections with others.

Redefining “Weaknesses”:
It is important to mention that when I say ‘redefining weaknesses’ or ‘embracing vulnerability,’ I do not intend to encourage normalizing self-deprecation, accepting mistreatment, or displaying bad habits. It means embodying a state of openness, allowing genuine self-exploration and self expression and natural compassion to flow from within, especially when making connection with others, be it other humans, animals, or nature itself.

For me, redefining my weaknesses and embracing vulnerability has been a profound and transformative lesson, particularly over the past few years. I realized that by consistently hiding my vulnerability, I closed myself off from forming genuine connections with others. Choosing a different approach, I embraced vulnerability, released the fear of judgment, and allowed myself to communicate with greater authenticity and ease. It was a profoundly liberating experience, as if I had finally torn down the immense wall I had built around myself.

This shift didn’t just impact my personal life; it also played a significant role in my work as a Coach and Mentor. I realized that by being vulnerable and showing my authentic self, I created a safe and supportive space for my clients, allowing them to feel comfortable opening up and being vulnerable themselves.

Here are five powerful tips to help you redefine your weaknesses and embrace your vulnerability:

• Accept Your Mistakes and Imperfections: Accepting failures or setbacks as opportunities for learning something new about yourself or the situation fosters a growth mindset. Cultivating a growth mindset is crucial for progress and innovation.

• Manage Self-Judgment and Criticism: Self-reflection is vital, but being excessively self-critical can hinder progress. Working on self-compassion and constructive self-assessment can lead to healthier self-improvement.

• Explore Unaccepted Parts: Understanding and accepting all aspects of oneself, even the less comfortable ones, is essential for personal growth. Sit with and acknowledge these facets to foster self-awareness and unconditional self acceptance.

• Express Negative Emotions Safely: All emotions, including negative ones, are valid. Creating a safe space to express these emotions, whether through journaling, talking to someone, or seeking support from a professional can be highly effective.

• Share Your Stories: Sharing personal experiences with others can be empowering. It not only helps you form a deeper connection with others but can also create a physical proof in your body that sharing your vulnerability is encouraged and acceptable.

Last but not least, as we navigate life’s challenges, let’s remember: within our vulnerabilities and perceived weaknesses lie our hidden treasures and unlimited possibilities.

If you’re ready to release old patterns, rewrite your story, and create a life you truly love while embracing openness, confidence, and meaningful connections—this is your opportunity! Contact me to book your coaching session today to take the first step toward transformation.

© 2025 Lina Bajandooh