Presence

Posted on November 15, 2024 by Sabine Schoellhorn, One of Thousands of Career Coaches on Noomii.

In my conversations with friends two things mainly stood out for me in these conversations, one was to not dwell in the past, but being in the present and taking actions towards the future. The other one was to change your environment if you need to change. How can you change if you are caught in the same environment that may not be of support for oneself?

I believe that change can start when you are aware that something needs to change. For me my feelings are a good indicator telling me if something isn’t really in balance and needs change. I think different people have different triggers that make them aware.

My feelings were telling me that I was dwelling in the past and I checked how its affecting me in my presence. Feelings are a really good indicator, it’s not about judging them but look at them objectively and understand what’s going on. We have choices what to do about those feelings, we can accept the way we feel of course but if those feelings get out of balance we need to take a deeper look what is going on. Maybe you need to let go or need to make changes that will help you get your feelings back in balance.

I did some honest asking in my heart, mind and soul to inquire what was going on for me. I also shared my feelings with friends and I got these really good advises that I have shared above. No one can help you to make a decision, my friends shared their view and perspective based on their experience of their life. I feel the importance to have those friends who you can count on a honest opinion and that their intentions are of love and care for me the advises given in my best interest. My friend said I don’t understand the way you are feeling but I accept whatever you do. Writing this almost brings happy tears to my eyes, as I recall my friends love to me. Accepting me in whatever I do, that’s really the beauty of friendship.

It’s that unconditional love and acceptance I received from my friends, but it also reminded me to feel the same way in my self. I did feel unbalanced and it affected my health too, I got sick and needed to rest too. I didn’t like that combination, but it was about love and acceptance for myself in that moment, the presence. It is what it is, what is next, where will you go from here? What is helping you now to get better and find your balance again. I decided to accept what is for the time being and feel into it more what to do about it. There is no rush in making decisions, the right time you will feel the clarity in knowing what needs to be done.

It’s really interesting how feelings and thinking are shown in my surfing. Today was finally the day that I felt at peace again, this feeling to be in nature and empty in my thoughts, just being in the present moment surrounded by water and catching waves. I love that feeling, and I am glad that I find my way back to it. I made a decision to stop dwelling in the past and move forward. This decision lead to that feeling of peace.

I really felt life is about moving forward. Funny, my Youtube playlist is now playing “Where are you going?”. My thoughts next to share were about growth. I had the honor to witness the growth of new graduates in my company. I am in charge for training and we did 2,5 month training together. I could see how they got out of their shell, how they struggled and overcome their insecurities, gained confidence and really blossomed. It was amazing to experience that time, I am so grateful and still so proud. Now they are learning in the departments and seeing them happy and joyful learning every day is really a great experience. I am so glad I am in charge for this job and witness growth every day.

This work also reminds me to be present and look forward into what’s more in life to come. The past gives us something we have learned and makes us the way we are now, but it’s not necessary to stick to it and re-live it again. So for me it was time to change the environment and it showed me how to balanced again. I am living in the present moment. I am grateful for all the support, love given by friends and that I could also be honest and loving towards myself in that process of changing the environment.

I wish you are living your life in the present!

With love & light,
Sabine