The emotional flatlands of your love life
Posted on October 10, 2024 by Clemens Heitmann, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.
There is a dangerous place in your love life. It can hold you captive without you even realizing it.
In this place you are not really satisfied, but also not dissatisfied enough to want to change anything.
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You just start another year on your own, it doesn’t make much difference now, does it? Your dating life is actually quite okay. Even if the women you meet aren’t really your type, at least you have a date every now and then… Even if it always goes nowhere, the right one will come along on Tinder at some point.
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That’s the dangerous place I’m talking about. In this place, you think you can just let fate work for you, but you don’t realize that time is working against you.
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Another month/ six months or a whole year – who cares. It’s somehow bearable. You don’t feel any pain that is so unpleasant that you can’t cope with it.
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Sometimes you’re at a point where you’ve sunk so low that forces are released in you that you didn’t know you had. The joke that you feel at this point also brings with it an incredible drive and motivation to change something.
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Those who stay in this emotional flatland the longest are usually the ones who end up regretting the most that they didn’t act sooner. They invent new excuses for years so that they don’t have to make an effort or because they can’t cope with the truth.
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Deep down, however, these men know that they are actually capable of more and that gnaws at them. Someone who lies to themselves for such a long time usually only realizes it when it’s too late.
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My wish for you is that you do better, that you are honest with yourself and don’t get stuck in the emotional flatland until you can’t do anything about it. Change something now so that you don’t have to look in the mirror bitterly and hate yourself for your decisions.
