Secure Attachment and Happy, Healthy Partnership
Posted on October 02, 2024 by Marina Gurman, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.
To help you envision yourself in a happy, healthy partnership, I describe secure attachment.
Secure Attachment
One of the first steps in Calling in “the One” coaching is for a client to envision her/himself in a happy, healthy partnership and allow her/himself to imagine what this experience would/will feel like. When folks did not grow up with happy, healthy caregivers, people with inner peace, self-respect, and interpersonal skills, it takes conscious effort to understand what secure attachment is.
Most of us know the following definition: securely attached children trust their parents and securely attached partners trust each other to be there for them when they need them. But what does this actually look like? Although secure attachment – love – is beyond words (and this is one reason why coaches must be securely attached themselves in order to be helpful to their clients), I offer the following description.
When you are securely attached, you will feel special and free, both on the inside and in the eyes of your loved one. You will feel wanted and needed, needed and wanted. You will live in the space where what you need is what you want and what you want is what you need.
