Be more YOU!
Posted on September 17, 2024 by Amit Sood, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
We choose a way of being before we act or speak. Being the kind of person we choose to be, defines and limits the impact that our presence would make.
We can take on many ways of being. There are many versions of ourselves that we have the choice to take on.
Who would you rather be?
1) The Assessing Self:
Usually, we are anxiously trying to be more, assessing and comparing ourselves and others on all kinds of parameters. Deeply concerned with how good we look, and how right we are.
To maintain and improve our projected image is a matter of urgent importance, as it is linked to the very survival of our ego.
Our hunger and our insatiable need to become better and different never let us experience being enough.
“Stay hungry stay foolish” – our role models teach us. So always hungry to have and be more, we’re never still. Always in action—if not physically, mentally. Always thinking, planning, doing. Never pausing enough to appreciate ourselves, others, or life itself.
Never enough, never fulfilled, and never at ease. We keep each other anxious. This is normal. Few know any other way of being.
2) Being in One’s Heart:
If one could permit oneself to slow down enough, one could access a new way of being. If one could let oneself be easeful, relaxed, and spacious with oneself. It needs you to be truly generous to yourself—to let yourself be, just for now, as you are. Get off your own back!
Then, one could look beyond assessments. Taking off the spectacles of assessment through which one is always viewing oneself and others, one could truly appreciate and be generous.
In being willing to be generous and spacious with oneself, the capacity to be kind and spacious to others develops too. Letting others be how they are. And not trying to evaluate or judge and then change, improve, or fix them all the time.
But it needs one to allow everything to slow down, become gentler, softer, and sync with the easeful pace of the universe. Only when one has slowed down and allowed oneself to become gentler can one access one’s heart.
In letting oneself sync with the pace and harmony of one’s heart, one can feel the spontaneous appreciation and gratitude arising there. One can sense a restful place that sings a sweet hum of a kind and loving message: “It’s okay, relax. Everything works out, eventually. You don’t have to be so anxious. Let yourself off the bandwagon. Take a breather.”
It does not mean one is no longer into passionate action, but one is not working from a place of anxiety to survive or prove oneself, to become or have enough.
One’s work is now a purposeful self-expression of one’s true being. The sweeter, kinder, more loving way of being.
“Love is space and time measured by the heart.” – Marcel Proust
3) The True You:
If you could let yourself slow down enough, you would be able to notice the deep silence and vast stillness within. You sense a deeper and even more rewarding version of yourself. That is alive, vibrant, and potent yet deeply restful in the assurance of its silent still being. Contented and complete in its integrity. Lit up, active and yet easeful in harmony.
This divine being is our natural self. We have a choice to be so.
