The Boulevard of the Righteous
Posted on August 14, 2024 by Karina Schneidman, One of Thousands of Business Coaches on Noomii.
Somehow, over the past ten years, almost everyone has become a medical professional, a lawyer, a scientist, and particularly an expert.
Written By: Karina S. Schneidman
Disclaimer: I am not offering any coaching advice, medical advice, suggestions on treatment or medical expertise. These are my blogs, they are my thoughts based on my own experience and some knowledge I retained.
I must admit, I am often at a loss for words these days.
Somehow, over the past ten years, almost everyone has become a medical professional, a lawyer, a scientist, and particularly an expert on my life. The number of times people tell me how to run my business, how to feed my children, how to think, and how I should live is nearly apocalyptic. Mind you, these are all unsolicited little nuggets. I am minding my own business and someone who doesn’t know me will take their precious time (away from their jobs, loved ones and their own expectations) and set them for me. How noble, right? God forbid, I disagree. I am immediately attacked by emotional spillage that this amazing human is carrying inside their body. The level of expectations that people are setting for each other has reached the clouds. Did empathy and mind your own business run out of business?
Suddenly people have become experts. What’s even more interesting is that the end game is attention. Happy and peaceful people don’t suck the life out of life. Something happened in the last decade or so with the overall human confidence. Somehow, sometime, an emotional war began. The concept of getting likes on Instagram slowly moved its way into our society outside the realm of social media. People have become addicted to validation. They need to matter so desperately that they are willing to attack, minimize, bully and discredit strangers (people they do not know, people they will never meet and people who they do not normally matter to, at all.) What happened??? When did we lose our minds? When did we lose self-respect? Why did we suddenly become so thirsty for blood? The emotional vampire era has arrived and we’re all watching it. You know what I’m talking about, right? You read an article, watch a reel, see a post and in some cases, someone will post something curious, ask questions and be open to other thoughts. Then enters the emotional mafia and they obliterate the writer, the commentators and suck as much blood as possible, because of course, they know better (this pertains to family members too.)
From what I have gathered comedians are about the only professionals who literally measure their value based on other people’s emotional reactions. So, is everything a joke now and we’re all comedians? Well, I am not laughing, are you? Ever hear how people say they “walk on eggshells” around others? We used to have thick skin and cognitive processing abilities, now everything is “you better know how to address me and talk only about things I like and agree with, or I will get offended, attack you, judge you and banish you. Because I am always right and know better.” Who gave them the certificate of perfection and what planet are they living on that they are this dominating and righteous?
With all this said, I can’t remember the last time I cared what someone thought about what I do, say or feel without me asking for their advice. I left the prison of other people’s validation many years ago and have not betrayed myself since. I recommend you do the same. Yes, it is hard not to “feel” judged and rejected by people overall (loved ones and strangers), but again, they’re out for blood, are you donating?
