It’s Not Your Fault!
Posted on December 27, 2011 by Corinne Valentine, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
When things are good, it's because of us. If things are bad, it's because of us.
Your bills are overdue, you say “the damm economy”, “why are the taxes so high”, “if my car would just act right it would not cost me so much money”, “if I had a better job”. You are sick, you say “there must be something going around”, “well its winter time”, “it is flu season”. You have yet another bad relationship and you say, “men suck”, “all woman are crazy” , ” I know its not me”. When you find yourself in a disagreement with someone, you say that anything and everything the other person may have said that was wrong or hurtful.
THIS WEEKS QUESTION: When is it your fault?
There is a quote that I love, it reads:
” Everything you have in your life right now you attracted, because if not you would have choose something different”
Meaning: If you look at it from this perspective, ITS ALL YOUR FAULT!!!!!!!!
Sorry, I know that sounds harsh but as they say, sometimes the truth hurts.
The truth is that every moment of your life you have a choice on how to feel, how to react, how to communicate, how to make personal changes, the list goes on.
So what would life be like if it wasn’t the economy’s fault or the taxes or jobs but the fact you are not being careful with your own money or your sitting on your butt watching reruns instead of looking for a better job.
If the weather had nothing to do with your health, but that you’re not taking care of yourself, no regular workouts and drive-thrus for lunch.
What if the common denominator in those bad relationships was you? Or if it wasn’t how everyone was talking to you, but how you’re speaking to them.
This is whats called “TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIFE”!
So what would this look like? Stop blaming others for your failed dreams, your unfinished goals, your never ending I’ll do it tomorrows. Stop analyzing what everyone else said and did to piss you off and look at yourself and how you got into a conflict to begin with it.
You can start by accepting that you are the cream in the butter, the pea in the pod, the banana in the peal, the core of the apple. The Responsible party of your Life.
WEEKLY TIP: Start noticing how you say things like: they did, he said, she said. Start speaking from ” I”. I did, I said, I can, I will. So if you attract everything in your life, what do you want to keep, what would you like to change?
THIS WEEK: BE FULL OF RESPONSIBILITY!
