Conscious Relationship - Do You Hide from What You Most seek?
Posted on December 15, 2011 by Michael Casteel, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
We actually hide from the very thing that we most seek, intimacy? In-to-me-see.
Here’s how NOT TO FAIL in fulfilling one of your deepest desire!
Do you hide from what you most seek in relationship? Most do!
It’s the number one reason why so many promising relationships fail.
Yet, it doesn’t have to be this way, really! There is a solution that I’ve both experienced personally and guided others. The solution is: Choosing to make your relationship with your beloved – a spiritual path by creating a conscious-loving relationship!
What is a conscious-loving relationship? Simply put, a conscious – loving relationship is one that recognizes and acts from the awareness that you and your partner came together for a sacred purpose and that purpose is to help each other become more whole.
Yet so often the opposite seems more true. Why is this? The answer lies in the unconscious ego based reactive patterns rooted in our unmet needs from the past. The opportunity is in allowing the love that is present within the relationship to heal the wounds that are the source of the destructive patterns.
We actually hide from the very thing that we most seek, intimacy? _ In-to-me-see._**
During early childhood, you and I learned to bond with caregivers in ways that felt good. This is where we learned many of the bonding patterns that continue in your adult life as the foundation for all of our relationships. No matter how satisfying those early relationships may have been, we also felt unmet needs. As hard as it might be to believe, these are the same needs that you seek to get met today particularly in your romantic relationship.
Cosmic Joke is, we attempted to get these needs met from the same energetic match of the people that couldn’t meet them in the first place. And, unless the relationship becomes conscious of this, they will continue to be unmet in your present romantic relationship.
When you can give your partner what s/he most emotionally needs, s/he heals and becomes more whole and you grow to become more flexible and whole yourself in the process. Not a bad deal! We all get to choose; conscious essence based love or unconscious ego based false love.
Whatever is not healed in your relationship now will repeat, in your current relationship and/ or a future one. The time for healing is now!
A conscious relationship can take many forms, ranging from monogamy inside a life long relationship with another to a creating conscious non monogamous community with others. Yet a relationship with our most intimate partner can be one of the most profound spiritual paths available to us. Romantic relationships are dramatic teachers of wholeness, showing us where we need to heal. Problems with our intimate partner can be an opportunity to grow in to greater wholeness, both personally and as a couple.
Our soul seeks real love. Our ego often creates false love. False love is ego based and concerned with protecting our vulnerability and getting what we think we want.
Real love…, essence based love desires to fully see the soul of their beloved and takes the risk of being fully seen by this beloved, in all its vulnerable glory.
Learn more about Conscious-Loving Relationships by clicking HERE!
