Why You Feel Lost, Stuck, & Overwhelmed

Posted on April 04, 2024 by Charla L, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.

You’ve seen videos of Youtubers giving up or taking extended breaks because they’re utterly exhausted.

But even outside of the Youtube world, creatives everywhere are struggling with feeling lost, stuck, overwhelmed, and just generally burned out.

If you’ve ever struggled with writer’s block or any kind of creative block, you can likely relate.

I’ve coached a bunch over the last few years and I’ve noticed that the same things tend to hold creatives back when it comes to not just getting work done, but also enjoying the journey along the way.

Here are the five obstacles that hold creatives back from living their best creative lives.

1. You’re doing too much

We all come from the same capitalist hustle culture that tells us that our only value is in how much we produce.

But allowing work to pile onto our plates and splitting our attention in a million different directions is the fastest way to burn out.

The only way to address this is to do less.

What can you do to take some things off your plate? More importantly, are you allowing things to be taken off your plate?

2. You have no system

If taking on too much leads to burnout, then not having a system is like adding gasoline to the fire. Not having a system can lead to working all the time, but never actually getting anything done.

What would it be like if tasks didn’t get lost or forgotten, but instead were completed in a calm, orderly fashion?

3. Your expectations are unrealistic

This is an issue of constant comparison. We see others putting reams of work out into the world, and it distorts our understanding of what our own capacity is to get work done.

Keep your eyes on your own paper. Focus on what works for you instead of comparing yourself to what other people can do.

4. You’re not addressing other needs

I’ve been that writer who shuns everything else to get a script in on deadline. And I’ve been that comedian who obsessively performs at the detriment of everything else in my life.

I do think there’s a time and a place for obsession and tunnel vision. But when burnout starts to creep in, or your life starts to collapse around you, it may be time to start addressing the fact that you have other needs- like sleep, time to do nothing, and time to connect with family and friends.

5. You have unhealed/unresolved trauma that needs to be addressed

You may be going about your life, struggling to work, and maintain relationships, and have no idea that you subconsciously don’t believe that you’re capable of doing any of it.

Or maybe you grew up in a situation where it didn’t feel safe to be yourself so you had to hide who you are to survive. In adulthood that shows up as self-doubt, playing small, people-pleasing, self-abandonment, a dysregulated nervous system, and a whole host of other behaviors that make it feel impossible to be your most calm, loving, and authentic self.