Finding a way back - Detachment
Posted on February 19, 2024 by Simona Petkova, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
The article published in Expert Profile Magazine with the respective column - Finding a way back
Every life has always been and is unconditionally and infinitively formatting to its unique form. This is, what is happening equally to every single individual in our perceivable existence named – reality. According to my own point of view, and I believe as to views of many others, the great visibility in the presence of never-ending and continually evolving transformation of our lives can always be found over time.
Whereas this process, can be perceived as if to each of us would be given our own expanding horizontal timeline through which, we are allowed to be constantly moving. Our moves, will however, not be happening only in one form as we all are way more than that. Imagine this timeline having its several subfloors as well as the various upper levels and us, moving through it in multiple forms as if we would be experimenting through our life’s journey while browsing through them with the lift among the various stages. As the path of our life isn’t straight, there would be certain twists, turns and forks on our journey. During being on one of the floors and spending there the time allowed to us, via challenges, experiences, risks, learnings, growth and so much more, we experience current form of a reality that we had consciously imagined and decided to live.
Once the life’s permit of being on this particular grade ends, we may find ourselves in a place so called “in between”. This is a place connecting what was, what is and what is about to be, many times interpreted by our mind as a gap or a break. What might be displayed in our mind via restoring process of our conscious and subconscious mind, our heart and our soul during this period are all of the pictures of the situations, moments, memories, feelings, achievements, losses or hurts collected along the journey via this imaginary, yet so realistic timeline.
Before we are in a state of providing ourselves the approval into moving to next stage, we may be considering our individual evaluation of all that was, up until now. Depending on our ever-given values and related significance to certain priorities we are as of now able to be evaluating everything. During this process, our present being with an idea given by our future self can be advising to go layers deeper in this unique assessment. Once we start examining the details of the situations in our mind that we were once in, we may find a way of honouring ourselves by being equally grateful for our lessons & blessings as well as for all past versions of us without which we wouldn’t be where we are by now. We may be equally thankful for everything that was, and all that we went through.
After this evaluation of the positive or negative situations via our mind is finalized, we may reconnect to our soul and heart to find out what were our most joyful, happy or valuable moments and what positive feelings are prevailing with them as well as to identify the feelings of hurts, the pains, the fears, we don’t intend to keep anymore. These are the ones, with which we would need to stay for a while longer and invite our partner the – Detachment along our journey to serve us.How frequently do we find ourselves attached to negative aspects from the past? Our mind remembers these moments equally well as everything what has ever been said to us no matter if that was true or untrue, our heart remembers the feelings we connected with it and in our soul, remains all of that, we have taken personally to us.
We can view the detachment as a procedure, that would be helping us to remove all of these parts, that we perceive as unwanted, not helpful for us, while presenting this all collected along our path, what is, however not supporting our near nor the future journey. This is, what the detachment can do for us, while acting as a saver of our needed wins, equally working on removal of our self-wasted moments, feelings and emotions in unwanted fights. By the act of detaching us from everything not serving to our newly refreshed identity, we may feel reconnected to ourselves and detached from the old patterns we once lived in, finding better ways for us and our reality.
At the same time that we are in progress of being rehealed from our past we certainly start to feel ready for our upper levels waiting for the thrive of the best versions of our lives, yet to come!
Simona Petkova
LevelLifeCoach
