Couples Coaching for White Collar Professionals

Posted on November 16, 2023 by Johanna Nauraine, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.

Over time, every couple develops interactional patterns that work to make their relationship stronger, as well as developing patterns that compromise the relationship’s stability. Coaching can help each partner become more aware of how they contribute to patterns that are unhealthy as well as developing skills for enhancing closeness and increased intimacy.
Good relationships exhibit the four big C’s: Commitment, Communication, Conflict Resolution and Commonality. Commitment on the part of both partners, helps the relationship survive the inevitable ups and downs that occur in a long term relationship. Communication is essential for smooth day-to-day operation between partners. This includes open and honest expression of needs and the ability to resolve conflict in a manner which is not destructive but which leads to greater closeness. Commonality in terms of hobbies or interests adds enjoyment and a sense of having a playmate to share experiences with, but, at a deeper level, shared values, life goals and preferred life style is even more critical for the long term success of a relationship.
Couples coaching is especially helpful to premarital couples who are beginning to plan their life together. Coaching allows these couples to take an inventory of the strengths and weaknesses in their relationship and identifies sources of conflict which, if not addressed adequately, may lead to longer term problems. It also gives these couples a chance to reflect on what brought them together in the first place and what dreams they have for the future.
Marriage is challenging and complex. The stage of a marriage — where the family is in the life cycle — new parents, the teen age years, empty nesters — all impact how a marriage functions. Coaching can help marital couples develop the necessary skills and resilience to function optimally at each life stage and to address the varying psychological and interpersonal tasks associated with each stage.
Long term marriages, in which partners have been together for many years, sometimes experience periods of stagnation in which one or both partners feels restless. Coaching can help long term marital partners become more aware of what might be leading to a sense of boredom or a lack of fulfillment and it can help couples develop new strategies for building increased emotional satisfaction.
Marriages often undergo dramatic changes which require necessary shifts and accommodations when one partner becomes ill, loses a job, returns to school or when the family faces relocation. These can present pivotal points in a marriage and coaching can help marital couples face these life transitions while still maintaining the integrity of the relationship.
Sexual intimacy is an important part of building and maintaining a healthy relationship. Couples often struggle with sex in their relationship whether it’s because one partner is less interested in sex than the other, or because behavior outside the bedroom is impacting feelings of closeness or safety. Sex is a language. It is a way of communicating ones feelings of closeness, caring, attraction and love for a partner. Coaching can help address stumbling blocks or barriers to having a healthy and satisfying sex life.
Infidelity can create a crisis in the life of a marriage. Extramarital affairs are often symptoms of deeper problems in a marriage. Coaching can help couples identify what patterns of behavior or individual needs and deficits might have led to the infidelity. Couples coaching can also help couples work on healing their relationship and on taking steps to restore trust.
Couples coaching is also extremely helpful to marital couples who’ve decided to divorce. It can help them think through the various changes they will face as the divorce becomes final. Issues of custody, visitation and financial responsibilities are all important to examine in light of the decision to divorce.
If there are young children in the picture, couples coaching can help divorcing couples work out their differences without placing their children in the middle of their conflicts and it can also help parents learn how to best help their children cope with loss and adapt to changing circumstances.

For more information about me and my coaching practice, go to: www.johannascouch.com