"The Four Agreements" Decoded: Your Key to Personal Freedom"

Posted on September 20, 2023 by Tina Jesso, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.

As a seasoned Success Coach with over two decades of experience, I’ve always been eager to soak up the collective wisdom on self-improvement. Today, I’m thrilled to share one gem that has profoundly impacted both my life and the lives of my clients – “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz. This book stands out as a beacon of wisdom, offering a clear path to improved mental health and a more joyful existence when its principles are applied in practice. Let’s delve deeper into these commandments and explore their transformative power.

1. Be Impeccable with Your Word:

At its core, being impeccable with your word begins with making and keeping promises to yourself. It’s like going to the gym, if that is your promise to yourself, instead of camping out in front of Netflix. When you commit to actions that benefit your well-being and follow through, you initiate a ripple effect of self-respect and self-care. This inner trust becomes the foundation for harmonious interactions with others. Our words possess immense power; they shape our reality. Thus, by refraining from gossip and speaking kindly of others and ourselves, we can actively create the reality we desire and feel more personal freedom.

2. Don’t Take Anything Personally:

The second agreement unveils a profound truth: when we stop taking things personally, we invite clarity and understanding into our lives. This shift diminishes misunderstandings and hurt feelings as we enjoy the peace that comes with not internalizing every external comment or action. Instead, we open ourselves to the inquisitive exploration of others’ viewpoints. Not taking things personally helps to develop our capacity for empathetic listening, enriching our lives and deepening our connections with others.

3. Don’t Make Assumptions:

Next up, not making assumptions. We all do it, jump to conclusions. But I’ve found that clear and open communication is gold. When I don’t assume stuff and ask questions instead, it’s like I’m cutting through the fog. It’s not just about understanding the other person; it’s about understanding myself better too. I ask myself, “What’s behind that comment?” or “How can I be there for them?” or “What’s the real story here?” Clarity is a game-changer, folks.

4. Always Do Your Best:

Lastly, doing your best. That’s the one that’s got me saying, “I’m trying my best here!” Your best might change day-to-day, and that’s ok. It’s about being your best self in the moment, not chasing perfection. And you know what’s cool? These principles are an ongoing practice, so we always have opportunities to discover and evolve.

But let me be totally up front; it’s not easy. Old habits die hard, and studies say 90% of our thoughts are the same as yesterday as per research by Dr. Fred Lusk from Standford University. But I’m trying to catch myself, taking a pause before reacting, and letting these agreements guide me.

I’ve seen some incredible changes in my life and my clients’ lives too. These principles have helped me find more peace, liberation and understanding. They’ve opened doors to deeper connections and personal growth. So, a huge thank you to Don Miguel Ruiz for sharing this wisdom.