Success Partner - A Perspective
Posted on June 02, 2023 by Neha Phull, One of Thousands of Executive Coaches on Noomii.
Owning your disappointments in life is the most difficult yet fruitful way of self-awareness.
A Perspective on Success Partner in this journey.
We manoeuvre along #life with a range of #desires within ourselves, wanting to achieve things and consider the fulfilment of certain desires as #success. There are times when we are clear about what we exactly want and many other times it is just an idea in our heads.
In this journey of chasing desires, we make various #connections. Our immediate family, the beloved, lot of close friends, #colleagues, our #digital media audience, #mentors, and the list goes on. As soon as the connection comes into existence, certain #expectations from the connection also comes alive. Very few times the #fulfilment we get from these relationships surpass our expectations, and most of the times disappointment prevails, and prolongs to such an extent that it gives way to various #limiting beliefs.
The point to be noted here is being clear on what ‘success’ or fulfilment means to us in different areas of our life where we have these connections.
Consider this for a minute:
- Irrefutbaly begin with; am I clear on what I want from different areas of my life?
If I am not clear, the person existing in that area of life will not be clear. My fulfilment and the fulfilment of the #relationship will only depend on chance – accidental fulfilment!
- What are my expectations from my connections?
I may have a fuzzy expectation at the back of my mind that the #synergy of every connection I have, should leave me feeling fulfilled. Fulfilled either through validation or knowledge or happiness or direction & so on. I may confuse my most urgent needs with the lack of reciprocity from my relationships. When I don’t pause and think whether a particular connection is for the fulfilment of a particualr need or not, I make room for limited #beliefs. I may end up under appreciating the value others are adding, as these do not match the image of my expectations.
- What if, I introduce a #conscious idea what would success/fulfilment look like to me in a relationship in that area of my life?
This would help limit my expectations to that idea of success in the connection. Once I am clear, I communicate that need/desire with the same clarity. The locus of control for my fulfilment remains with me in this case. Even when I may not get the success I desire, it makes it easier for me to choose and move on and not be stuck in or repeat the loop endlessly.
“Most definitely easier said than done! It requires a very high level of self-awareness and constant #pivoting of the idea of fulfilment itself.”
Applying the concept of Success Partner: As simple as it can get:
“Say, one of my purposeful desires in life look like this:
Desire to acquire #knowledge in my area of interest and #growth
- Identify who is the knowledge #partner in your life. Do you feel they add to your idea of success in this quest for knowledge? What more can you do enrich this connection? If you see them in this light, and the connection still feels incomplete, what is missing in the interaction? Are you expecting more than knowledge from them? If yes, they may not be the right ‘knowledge partner’ for you or there is chaos in your expectations from them ”
In the same manner, clarity of physical, emotional, spiritual, social, wellbeing desires, etc will help us identify our success partners. One can actively seek qualified success partners as well, like coaches, therapists, networking communities, leaders, teachers, mentors, friends, etc..
Qualities of a Success Partner:
- When perceived rightly, you see them adding to your existing thoughts and ideas
- They will be the #voice of action and #encouragement
- They will highlight and urge you to look at your blind spots
- There will be no room for #ambiguity, #communication would be easy and cherished
- It will be a balanced and #authentic connection
We don’t just release ourselves from the vicious loop of expectations and disappointment through identifying our success partners; we make more meaningful connections, we become appreciative of people in our lives, we value what others add to our lives. We don’t just identify and acknowledge ‘our’ success partners; we also strive to ‘become’ that for others by being our whole complete selves.
Are you ready to take complete #responsibility of your own life and not just depend on accidental success/fulfilment?
