Befriending my Inner Critic and finding Harmony
Posted on April 10, 2023 by Pooja Smita Narjaree, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
How to work together with the inner voice which keeps criticizing you, and not let you make the dream life that you want to make
My biggest inner critic is “You aren’t good enough. Don’t think you can just do anything you want” and “You can’t do it by yourself, this is not the time for you to do something of your own in your 30s” to being scared “What if I fail, what if I just mess up my perfect professional career.. and all the degrees that I have worked so hard to earn?”
Looking back since I was a child, I always had an urge to do something of my own.
Like Dreams of opening up a chocolate factory, or owning a design studio, or being an artist and travel the world.
Somewhere through adolescence, I discovered profound joy when it came to helping others. Even during schools; enabling my fellow class mates to grasp mathematics better, to guiding people going through diseases like cancer and managing their lifestyle.
As I progressed in my corporate life, the urge became so strong, that whenever negative office politics came up; I would be like “I don’t know what I am even doing here and why?? "
I then took a career break. I thought at max for 2 months, travel around and then re-join.
Somewhere then situations happened in my life. It made me further question myself.
What is it that I want?
Why do I really need to work for another company?
I spent on office work ~14 hrs/ day; I have decent talent and have willingness to learn. Why can’t I put same effort for myself?
Through all the explorations.. to coming to a stage of finding a viable field which will be give me fulfilment as well as provide financial freedom .. to doing something good for the community is where I found my INNER HARMONY
All this while, I made a complete list of my dreams, of things I loved doing, to things I am open to learning etc.
I also checked, feasibility of my options and if it would lead to my financial goal
Also in this journey, my inner critic and insecurity would keep popping up. I somehow befriended them
Whenever my inner critic would pop up, I would ask
What are you so scared of?
What are you trying to protect me from?
What can go wrong and can we work out a plan together?
What do you think is possible vs not? etc.
And then when fear and insecurity comes up.
I would always think “I wish someone was there to support me, to lend me a shoulder”
To being able to self-nurture and self-support. That everything is going to be OK. Its normal to be scared and feel discomfort, because it is something totally different you are doing.
And then to : I am so proud of you, everything will work out just the way you want
And thus my life story goes on
I hope with this, it will encourage someone, who is on their way to find life purpose.
If there is a will, there is always a way.
The unconscious mind always guides. The question is “What do you want to seek and focus on? To Build something or to Avoid something”?
