Understanding Perceived Value is a Game Changer
Posted on February 28, 2023 by Andrea Ruth Walker, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
How do you calculate your Personal Value and where has it affected your life's experiences? What would change if you had a new concept of self-Worth?
When we are children the foundation that becomes the Platform for our Self-Worth is created. From this platform we begin to build our Personality, our Perceived Value and our Concept of what it is to give and receive Love.
For myself after the age of 5, I endured a lot of different types of Abuse. Simultaneously, from the healthier adults in my life, I received a lot of Praise for my Talents in giving Massage and helping others feel better Emotionally and Physically.
In my young developing mind, I began to believe that my Value in Relationships came from how I made other’s feel about themselves.
This is how I Perceived Received Love from Others: I Love you because you make me feel Good about myself…
This is how I Perceived feeling Self-Love: I Love me because of how I feel about Myself when something I said or did made You feel good about Yourself…..
This type of Reliance on Someone Else to Value certain Aspects of Yourself creates a pattern of Dependency.
Ultimately, it leaves you in the Power of another’s Approval or Disapproval. It leaves you constantly Judging your own Self-Worth based upon other’s Reactions to You and your Actions.Healthy Love is devoid of Judgements towards each other. Acceptance is the foundation of a Co-Creationship.
To begin to Recreate the Platform for a Healthy Self-Worth, you must first understand that you are Valuable. PERIOD.
Here’s an exercise to help you.
Get two pieces of paper, Write down everything that you think you need to be, learn or change in order to be Valuable, everything you think that you have to offer that gives you Value, everything anyone has ever said made you Valuable…
Burn that paper.
On the next piece of paper write this…
I was born. I have Infinite Value, it is my Birthright. From this Understanding, You can Start the process of creating a new Platform for True Self-Worth.
Andréa Ruth Walker
