SHOULDS/COULDS Can'ts/Won'ts Wants/Needs: part 2 of 3
Posted on November 10, 2011 by Andrea Burk, One of Thousands of Leadership Coaches on Noomii.
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Shoulds are Obsessive thinking laden with…
• Guilt
• Forced obligation
• No choice or self-determination
• Disempowerment
• Gloominess
• Punishment if you don’t do it
• Less feelings of joy upon completion
• “Phew…glad that’s over with!”
Coulds are Harmonious thinking allowing for…
• Ownership
• Empowerment
• Flow
• Self-determination
• Personal choice
• Focus on goals
• Achievement
• Feelings of accomplishment on a job well done
• “YES!”
