RISE FROM THE ASHES - NOW!
Posted on November 08, 2011 by Carla Langmead, One of Thousands of Life Coaches on Noomii.
Make your setbacks become a non negotiable opportunity for growth. Here is a piece of mine and my partners story.
My best mate is rehabilitating after an unforseen tragedy in his life. A life that appeared on the surface to be ideal. He had just started a new relationship that bought new found freedom, a promised future in a job which he was passionate about, and the chance to direct his life more on his terms. All this disappeared in a blink of an eye. Suddenly all the dreams and visions were gone and new dreams were needed. Simple dreams like learning to walk and talk again. A far cry from the life he had just a few minutes prior.
Although he has had so much taken away from him, what he can never lose is his spirit, determination and courage. These belong to him alone. These qualities are now the leverage for the strength he has and will need in the many years to come. They are part of the depth of his character and they will be some of the qualities that will get him through. As a mere observer I watch him in awe and see him struggle with his once strong and able body. It is so heart wrenching, and yet there is so much to learn from him on many levels. Firstly I grieve for him and wish that I had my mate as he was before so I can enjoy the many things that we used to, a simple conversation would do! but I also see the great gift offered to me and those who have the insight to receive it. One of those pearls is the appreciation of what we as able bodied people still have, and of the easier choices myself and my children get to make. Choices that even made in error come with the luxury of comparatively simple solutions. Unlike my mate who has to now work harder than ever before.
His determination and commitment to his rehabilitation deserves nothing but praise and respect. In fact I feel sorry for those who were once close to him and now choose not to share in his experience and get to see and learn from the pure strength of this man. Internally his character is greater and bigger than ever before. He keeps going when a lot of others would have stopped. This quality is seldom seen in many people. His options have decreased but new options have taken their place. It is his chance to establish himself again on his terms. His chance to make a miraculous comeback. Every decision now needs to be carefully thought out and his intentions clear. No more short cuts, no more people pleasing. His time to grow in strength and rise again is now. He now needs to find out what is at the very core of his personality, expose it and grow it. Ideally all of us would learn this about ourselves without having to face the challenge of adversity, mostly we dont though. Why try and fix what’s not broke is our motto. Some things need to break sometimes and the results can be measured with new insights and clarity, wisdom and experience. But sometimes things are so transparent that prevention is available if you take the time to find out what drives you as a person and you remain integral to that cause.
Carla Langmead
Health & Wellness Coaching
Cert Fitness & Counselling Skills
REPS registered.
www.wellnesscoaching.ac.nz
Ph: 021 1658 961
06 345 2494
