Is a dating coach right for me?
Posted on October 07, 2022 by Monica Borschel, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.
As a dating coach, my role is as a guide that helps clients understand themselves, their attachment styles, and their values to find the right person.
What is a dating coach?
As a dating coach, my role is as a guide that helps clients understand themselves, their attachment styles, and their values to find the right person. The right person will likely share similar core values to yourself. For example, if you value empathy and loyalty in yourself, your ideal partner should also have empathy and be loyal.
Toxic relationships
A dating coach can also help you to understand if you are in a toxic relationship and how to avoid unhealthy relationships. It could be confusing if you grew up in a house with a lot of conflict, neglect, or abuse. A healthy relationship is built on honesty, loyalty, empathy, and mutual respect.
Dating apps
Dating apps can be a great way to meet people. However, people need to be aware of people that could cause harm. For example, some people might be looking to extort money or abuse you. You can tell if someone is a scam artist if they refuse to video chat with you or if they ask you for money. Therefore, always meet your online dates in public. Online dating can be stressful for some people because of how fast paced it is. Learning to cope with rejection, which happens in dating, is fundamental. If rejection has been challenging to overcome and has left you with low self-worth, it can be helpful to speak to someone.
Meeting potential matches in person.
Meeting someone doesn’t have to be painful. What are your hobbies? Can you meet someone through those? I would recommend going to a place you enjoy and where you might also meet someone. Dating is a numbers game. You are more likely to meet someone if you continue to put yourself out there. It can be challenging at first if you are feeling anxious. However, if you push yourself out of your comfort zone, you might meet new friends, dates, and potentially a partner. Some of the most giant blocks to meeting your partner are feelings of shame and low self-worth. Being attractive means feeling healthy and confident.
Know yourself and your attachment style.
It is always helpful to understand yourself. This includes how your background shapes your perception of yourself and others and your attachment style. Understanding your experiences can help you know why you are often in conflict or if you are conflict avoidant. It can also help you to understand what triggers hurt feelings and insecurities. For example, knowing your worth makes you less likely to find yourself with a toxic partner.
If you would like help understanding your relationship patterns, attachment styles, or how to meet someone, I would like to help. Contact me to set up an online session via email info@doctormonicaborschel.com.
