Divorce Planning

Posted on September 05, 2022 by Nighat Haroon, One of Thousands of Career Coaches on Noomii.

Are you really ready for a divorce? 

One of the most crucial and difficult decisions in life is deciding whether you want to opt for a divorce or not. So before making that big decision in your life, you need to evaluate: is your marriage really beyond repair? Are you unable to create a healthy environment around you and your children while together? Having a tough time living in that toxic relationship? Suffering from anxiety, depression, and trauma and want to move on? 

The term “divorce”; itself sounds very painful and distressing. The process, in itself, is excruciating to many. Whatever the reason for the split, the breakup of a relationship can turn your world upside down, as the decision to obtain a divorce is the most critical decision a person can make, keeping in mind all sorts of consequences and effects that will last a lifetime. It is not only you but also your children who are involved in this process, and they will be facing a roller coaster of emotions. 
If you are an expat living in the UAE and seeking a divorce, you must take into account
all the laws that will apply to you and your children too. According to UAE law, then biological mother of a child is the custodian, while the father is the guardian. When dealing with a separation or divorce, many foreigners are uninformed of the laws of divorce and how it is processed. While addressing this dilemma, it is important to take clarifications on all the factors associated with the process. To ensure a smooth and collaborative divorce procedure, the couple must be well informed and well-planned too.

How to plan for divorce?

Divorce brings disappointments, mental health problems, depression, emotional
instability, anger, stress, and it is a major disruptor in one’s life emotionally, financially,
and sometimes spiritually. 

Pre-and post-divorce planning is very essential as it increases the likelihood of a
smooth divorce process while considering all important factors associated with your life.
It is the lack of preparedness that causes marriages to end abruptly and the deterioration of the divorce process. As research shows that considering divorce can increase depression and anxiety levels, it is essential to do proper planning and be well prepared on all levels; physically, emotionally, and financially. 
 
The Role of a Divorce Coach:
The process of divorce is itself overwhelming and stressful, your life is completely shattered, and you are broken. In this situation you need reliable support and help, so it is important to select and choose people wisely who can support you on different levels; emotionally, legally, financially and physically.

The role of divorce coach is very important in planning your divorce, because they are trained mental health professionals who listen to you, to help you navigate the process, and to make the transition as smooth as possible .Divorce coaches have specialization, knowledge and expertise related to pre, during and post-divorce planning, personal development, planning co-parenting and all other issues related to divorce. They will walk the path of emotional journey with you and will provide support and guidance through the following steps.

1. Personal Development: 
“I was standing on the other side of the world, with two small children and amidst an extremely hostile separation, I couldn’t see a way forward for myself” I heard about Nighat through my friend and contacted her for a discovery call for 30 mins. From our first appointment, I have felt free
space to tell her about everything, as she is so easy to talk and understand. She also has a friendly coaching style which has made me see things in a different perspective and definitely helped me to understand the dynamics of my past relationship. I have found my discussions with her helpful and reassuring. She has made me consider the positives of my current situation, as well as how to deal with the difficulties.

I would recommend her to anyone at any stage of a separation or divorce. My situation was very new and upsetting and I didn’t feel like dealing with it by myself. Nighat has empowered me and shown me a variety of strategies to move forward, to deal with my ex-partner, and advised me on a variety of personal issues that have arisen during this time” (Client Testimonial)

A divorce coach will help you with personal growth and self-actualization. They will help you to discover yourself once again and to realize your new sense of self. Most importantly, they will assist you in building and strengthening your skill set to face the world. 

In order to cope with the challenges of marital dissolution and to find considerable gains in the reorientation of your life, it is important to know your self-worth and what you can achieve. The coach will help you to set attainable goals and will indulge you in activities and training sessions to help you heal from trauma, reclaim your life, and move forward after a relationship breakup. 

Income Empowerment:
Are you financially empowered? To have a more secure financial future after divorce, gathering information related to the things you own individually or on a joint basis is of utmost importance to becoming knowledgeable about your future financial stability. Many couples who are undergoing divorce procedures have a fear of what their financial life will look like after the divorce. 

In case you are currently going through a divorce, your capability to make informed decisions related to your financial future may be compromised, especially if you are not capable enough to do your financial calculations. A divorce coach can help you achieve financial empowerment from the beginning so that all your financial needs can be met in your post-divorce life. 

Co-Parenting:
Divorce can have a negative impact on children. It can be very traumatic for children to witness their parents’ separation as their whole life seems to be turned upside down. Co-parenting helps children to develop a sense of security and self-worth, and they tend
easily adjust to the new living conditions.
A divorce coach in this tough time will assist you to develop a well-developed, comprehensive co-parenting plan for your children, in which both parents will share the responsibilities of raising a child.
 
Emotional Support:
Dealing with a separation or divorce is a highly daunting, stressful, and life-changing event in which you will need support from your loved ones because the strain of separation can make you emotionally and physically vulnerable. In this case, a divorce coach knows how to take you out of a nutshell and prepare you to take proper self-care through indulging in self-care activities. They make sure that you acknowledge your needs with the utmost priority.