A Guide To Talking To Your Partner About Emotions
Posted on August 23, 2022 by Josh Krantz, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.
Being open with the ones we love often sets the tone for healthy communication habits in relationships.
I say it all the time. Communication is the backbone of any relationship. However, for many, it can be one of the hardest things to do. To bring a thought or feeling from the inside out into the open can evoke feelings of fear and worry in even the toughest of individuals. Why does this happen when we are supposed to feel safe to be ourselves with the ones we love the most? Is it a fear of rejection? Or is it a fear of hurting our partner? Do we worry what they might think of us if we said how we really felt sometimes?
Every answer to these questions is an assumption in our minds until we act with some bravery and talk it out. Now let’s come up with some strategies to reduce this internal worry which can be so paralyzing in the moment. First, you must tell yourself that no matter what, the conversation you have with your partner will not kill you. It can be uncomfortable, it may not end positively, but any physical tension or pain you might be feeling is the effect of thoughts you are having.
To start, coming from an angle of empathy and doing your best not to get overheated will surely help to minimize any hostility. Realizing that we are all human and it’s ok to feel how you do should make the actual act of talking with your partner much easier. It should also show them that you are a safe and secure outlet for them to relay any of their feelings to you. Being in a relationship is about working through this life experience together, through good times and challenging ones.
