MY FOUR PRINCIPLES
Posted on July 30, 2022 by Katia Phillips, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.
You don’t need to be happy all the time.
1. You don’t need to be happy all the time. Yes, you read correctly. One day, I was browsing YouTube and came across a video of Matthew McConaughey’s motivational speech. At one point, he said something that caught my attention. He explained that happiness depends on our ability to produce a positive result. He said: “Happiness is an emotional response to an outcome: If I win, I will be happy. If I don’t, I won’t.” We are brought up with the idea that we must continuously pursue happiness and greatness, but you see? It’s a fallible concept as we cannot operate in a constant productive mode. This unattainable objective shuns us away from the opportunity to observe what is happening in times when we are not happy and to try to listen and understand.
2. There are no such things as “bad” or “good” emotions. Our feelings are all useful, and they have reasons to exist. Conceptually we have labeled the most hurtful and challenging feelings as “bad,” and we have been taught that we need to repress and push them away. What if I tell you that there is a message behind your past or present struggles? What if I tell you that trying to desperately ignore your anger, fear, or anxiety makes things worse for you?
3. You are not in trouble when you’re miserable. You are in trouble when you can’t see a way out. When you tell yourself things like: “Nothing will ever change," or “I am not good enough," or “I will never be able to get out of this.” The issue is not the emotion but the inability to move and transform your stuck state within that emotion.
4: YOU ARE PERFECT AS YOU ARE, and you have everything you need to overcome your life challenges. You only need to learn to see, hear, and feel it. And that is what I can help you with!
Through mindset coaching, you will learn that by intentionally allowing what takes space in your mind, you can define the outcome of how you feel and how you choose to act. Remember, mental coaching is not about fixing or rewiring your brain. It is not about me handing you magical potions or prepackaged solutions. It’s about you and your commitment and desire for a better life. It’s about finding your key to open the door to walk out into the world and live the way that feels best for you.
