Avoiding difficult conversations?
Posted on May 24, 2022 by HARVEY PACHT, One of Thousands of Relationship Coaches on Noomii.
Difficult conversations typically create distance between us. What if you could take that same topic and have it bring you closer to each other?
What is couples coaching designed to do? Quite simply it’s designed to get both of you in the same mode of communication. And as a result of that, to leave each of you with the felt experience of having been understood. Deeply understood. The kind of being understood that leaves you with nothing more to say because the other person actually “got you”.
The place that this makes a difference is when there is a difficult conversation that needs to take place. One that is controversial or has the great potential to be misunderstood or hurt feelings. Or one where a partner really did make a mistake or did something stupid that violated the boundary around the relationship and is attempting to heal it. These are difficult conversations and without the skill to REALLY communicate these issues typically never get fully resolved and recycle over and over again. Imagine what it would be like to take on an issue that never got resolved and take it right through to completion so that none of it is left. At that point what is left is a sense of connection and love.
